I don't know what you are asking for, support for is it tips on eating healthier for your children or is it support for you, to assist you in helping yourself get back into healthy eating and feeling better, in turn looking better for yourself.
I think you are asking for help for yourself, in saying this you have to put your needs a little higher on the list of your daily to do list. Take yourself out of the slot #20, and maybe move yourself up to a single digit.
I know you are trying to make meals based around what your children like to eat, and this is great, but you also have to enjoy those meals also, make small changes at first, so its not a huge leap, just a few steps in the right direction. Life is a bit more than all or nothing....especially with diet, and lifestyle change.

What are their favorite foods? what are yours? if I have an idea, maybe I work them both in together for you.

There are solutions to every problem if we want to change. We can say all day long how badly we want to lose weight, eat healthy or exercise more but if we keep a list of reasons why we haven't and can't we are unlikely to be successful. Change really begins in our thinking. You need to remove the buts from your vocabulary and think about how this is going to work in your schedule. It's tough for sure but it can be done and if you start of with small changes it may be easier that you anticipated.

I would personally start off by moving out of the inner isles of the grocery store and eating what you do now but with healtier substitutions. Lots of kids have sandwhiches and chips for lunch but love apple slices just as much as chips if they are put in front of them. Just as an example.

Wake up earlier in the morning to make more time if nothing can be cut from your schedule. Get the kids to help you so you can have more time to prepare meals. Cook things ahead on the weekend.

Drink more water, it raises metabolism.

You need to make time for you. If something doesn't change, then nothing changes.

I agree with the previous two posts. More information would be helpful. How old are your kids? Are you wanting ideas for healthier meals or ideas about making time for yourself, or both?

On the food front, you might start by making some healthy substitutions. Any bread, rice, or pasta in your house should be whole wheat or whole grain. It would be best if you and your kids are getting five servings of vegetables and fruits per day, so think about how you can do that. Milk should be non fat - if your household currently is drinking full fat milk, move down to 2%, then to nonfat. If you do it gradually, your kids may not notice. Juice should be replaced by water and whole pieces of fruit, or half pieces for the kids. Packaged, heavily processed items like cookies, chips, or crackers should probably be eliminated and replaced by healthy, low calorie substitutes. Any type of soda should get eliminated and everybody should drink water instead. Swap out ground beef for ground turkey. And so on. These are changes that are easy and will not create more work for you. They are just a starting point, but if you can chip away at some of them over time, it might help. Best of luck with it.

Dear dreamsoftomorrow, firstly a massive sign of respect for coming though all of this with your head held high. Well done! Now, you do need to create some dreamsoftomorrow-time :-), just for you! Everyone needs time for themselves. Start with 30min a day and do something that YOU love. Go for a walk maybe, ideally do some exercise.. maybe get on a health plan? Anything, the key is to create some time for you.. maybe a reular time slot? Check out the important and urgent epiphany. Good luck :-)