Hugs! You need to make small goals for yourself. Like what is something you think you could do in the right direction that would be easy for you?

Maybe the first thing you need to do is choose a healthy diet that would be easy for you to follow. Don't get down on yourself, this happens to lots of people at one time or another, and you can get better.

Do you have anyone helping you who would be supportive?

Maybe something easy like a diet of shakes could help. Sugarfree protein shakes are very filling and come in different flavors. you can have some of them instead of things that aren't so healthy.

Don't give up, just start brainstorming things you think you might be able to do and keep posting on here. We will help you figure it out and get on the right path.
hugs.

You are certainly NOT alone. I am RIGHT there with you

If you see my threat Althas and his Diet, you will see exactly what I mean

EllA is exactly right. If you are having trouble, set yourself small goals. My personal small goal is to Get through today and stay on my diet. It is only one day. Then tomorrowm, I set myself the same goal.

It is hard, I will not and can not mask that fact, but I have found in the short time I have been here that the people are great and very supportive, so dont be afraid to ask each day for a little moral support, no one will mind, we (I am sure) wil lbe more than happy to do it

Have you talked to your doctor, there could be an underlying problem contributing to it. For me it has been depression. My doc was great in helping me with that a few years ago, and ongoing support from him. Have a meeting and have a chat see what he says

Big Hugs to you

http://www.specialk.com/#/SpecialK

I tried the Special K diet for a couple of weeks and managed to lose around 7lbs. It involved eating cereal for breakfast and lunch with the usual meat / potato / veg for the evening meal. Fruit or a cereal bar made were used as snacks between meals.

Hi Lonely,
I have fallen into the same trap many times, but really all the self hate is getting you nowhere, so I would suggest making a gratitude list. As bad as it is now, surely you can find some things to be grateful for...your accident, although unfortunate, didn't kill you, so maybe you could look at it as a second chance. I agree with the others as well on the small manageable goals. You can pull yourself out of the rut!

Hang in there :) So many of us have been there, whats important is to know that youre NOT ALONE. Like I said...lots of us have been there :) It takes making the decision to change your lifestyle and REALLY WANTING it to be able to succeed. We'll help support you along the way, don't beat yourself for little mishaps that will come along the way...its part of life and something to learn from. Its so hard to say "have a positive self image" when so many magazines, new articles, tv shows...talk about weight, blah. Hang in there...YOU CAN DO IT!!! (if you realllly want it).

You have come to the right place! You certainly are not alone. No one caused me to be a couch potato all of these years. No one put that food in my mouth. So after years of this and gaining all of this weight, I feel so much guilt. But I am trying to get past the guilt and do something about it. Acknowledge your feelings, put them in their proper place, and then come up with a realistic game plan with small, attainable goals. Talk to your doctor. If you had an accident, what kind of injuries did you sustain? Can you go through physical therapy to both exercise and regain your strength and mobility? Maybe your insurance can help cover the cost of physical therapy? Take it slow and try not to get discouraged.

I did not realize how out of shape I really was until I tried to get back into shape. It is taking longer than I thought, and I have had to readjust my goals and my beliefs. I have only lost 11 lbs since November. But I can honestly say that I feel better and I am in better shape than I was 4 1/2 months ago.

Keep a journal. That helps too. Good luck! We are here for you! The past is the past. No more hating yourself! Love yourself and your body enough that you want to take care of you! Take care!

THANK YOU SO MUCH EVERYONE..TODAY REALLY HASNT BEEN ANY BETTER FOR ME BUT I TRULY APPRECIATE ALL OF YOUR KIND WORD AND ADVICE.....

I know how you feel,I go to Weight Watcher ,because I get the support there at the meeting and those people have the same problem" Weight" so they do understand where you going through.Good luck and check it out one day maybe it is something for you?Big Hugs.

We are here for you. Your are not alone. I know exactly how you feel. When things get this low its the perfect time to see the light through darkness.The first things first please love yourself and try to find ways to say and think loving thoughts.
Maybe there's a song that inspires you or a book. Anything to keep your mind more present and not thinking about the past or future.
Be proud of yourself for sharing your feelings here and being vulnerable to change something and help yourself. That is why you are here.
How are your eating patterns and how does food make you feel?

I would start simple and maybe lot and see what eating choices you make.
Weight issues really mostly stem from poor food choices and lack of nutrients. Your metabolism will start revving up once it receives good healthy signals from your brain. I highly suggest you go on a couple day cleanse and clear your mind.
I understand the negative thoughts my dear I get them too. Lately I've just been choosing to cope with them differently. They dont take me hostage anymore I'm not going to let them. but I do to feel sadness from failure at times. We learn from these things though. The main thing I learn when feeling like I hate myself is to be tender to myself and try not to process the negative thoughts But I have hope that you will find your way and God is everywhere and with you too........bless

wow sorry for the awful spacing in my above sentences...hahahaha

It will realistically take considerable time to get back into shape, but there is something you can do right now! Forgive yourself and others for past mistakes and hurts. Your fat is baggage that you will need to carry a while longer while you work on it. But the burden of self-hatred or resentment, you can CHOOSE right now TO LAY THAT BURDEN DOWN!

First of all, YOU ARE NOT ALONE! :) We are hear for you!! I agree, you should try weight watchers. My mom did it when I was younger and there were so many women and support groups that her weight just melted off. I would have loved to join, but I couldn't afford it. I say go for it! Good luck :)

One day at a time.
Like Althas said:
Set small goals. make it through one day eating healthy and exercising. After awhile, make it a little longer. Set your goal for a week.
You'll get the hang of it and if you need any help, you know where to find us!