Diets & Weight Maintenance Support Group

Chat about how well your latest diet is -- or is not -- working. This group is a great place to find support and accountability as well as share success stories and valuable lessons with the community. From where to start to weekly weigh-ins, get help from others to reach your dieting and weight maintenance goals.

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Struggling-4-2
Struggling-4-2

Hi, Everyone. I am new to this site and group. I am looking for a little support on my weight loss journey. Never thought I would need support and always thought I could do this alone. Well, here we are 4 years later and not only have I gained 40lbs I am struggling to stay afloat. I am not doing this for just me, I am doing this for my daughter as well. She also has gained 40lbs but hers has been in the last year. It is very hard for me to motivate her to move and eat healthier when I am struggling myself. We are 3 days into this healthy eating and I have fallen off the wagon at least once every day so far. I started out with a plan and a schedule but I have not followed it completely once. It is stressful and depressing that I feel as if I can't get right and will be overweight my entire life.


I started first with thinking oh I will just do weight loss surgery but I was denied because my BMI was not high enough. How disgusting do I have to look before I get some help? Any rate, in 2012 I started doing it on my own. I was 183lb and was able to get down to 162lb. Then life happened and now I am 207lb (i guess). The only difference is now I don't want the weight loss surgery. I want to do this naturally for my teen daughter sake. I don't want her trying to tap out for the weight loss surgery because she is only 14 and she is weighing 172lb.


The major problem here is I can't seem to get on board. I can't seem to stop failing and giving up. I look at her and feel as if I am the one killing her because I can not lead by example and get healthy myself. My family medical history is absolutely terrible ranging from type 2 diabetes (insulin dependent), high blood pressure, high cholesterol, fatty liver, gallstones, strokes, and heart disease to name a few. This only includes my parents (mother and father). It does not take into consideration my grandparents. We are doomed if I can't get it together. The worst of it all is her father's side does not look better. 


Well, enough pity party. Let me put on my big girl (no pun intended) boots and get moving. Hopefully, I don't stop or stumble again. 

AnxietyFreak40
AnxietyFreak40
You need a life style change, not a diet. It has to be something you can actually live with or you will never stick to it. Different things work for different folks, I know that. You just need to figure out what will work for you and stick with it. I bought the book, The Wild Diet, by Abel James. I have been doing this for a year now. There is no counting, and he doesn't want you to be miserable. The book is only 15 on amazon although his website support is quite a bit more. Check it out and keep posting here. You just have to find that one thing that works for you. Hugs!
dinahmorris
dinahmorris
It is NOT easy, if it was, nobody would be struggling and unhappy about weight. You have great motivation in your daughter. I wish you all the strength in the world to break the bad habits that are holding you back. NOT EASY-but possible! Keep it up!!
Struggling-4-2
Struggling-4-2
I know this isn't a diet. I'm not counting calories. What I am trying to commit to is eating 3 healthy meals a day and 2 snacks. And drinking 1/2 my body weight in water. When I say I am falling of the wagon everyday it is because I'll have something quite unhealthy because I have little will power. Example today I had a 3/4lb burrito. Why I ask myself why did you need the burrito and I had zero answer for myself. I just felt guilty after eating it. And even though I'm not counting calories I look at them. That stupid burrito was almost 900 calories. See it's stuff like this that makes me so sad. I need to learn to tell myself NO.
AnxietyFreak40
AnxietyFreak40
I allow myself one of my favorite cookies at the end of the day...It gives me something to look forward to and somehow seems to make it easier to say no to other treats. Hugs!
MikeRiches
MikeRiches
Excited to hear about your journey. I have found that having a specific deadline in mind really helps me make the changes I need. If I force my self to sign up for a run or a hiking trip with friends then it will hurt to let them down. That forces me to make the changes I need to. Good luck
ttocs21
ttocs21
Can you find ways to remind you of why you want to eat healthier? I find that when I am remembering the purpose behind things it's easier to say no to the hard stuff.
starlight72
starlight72
I am also struggling right now after losing 105lbs and keeping it off since 2006. For whatever reason I feel the need to eat foods that I know will stop me from losing the 30lbs I have gained back. I am not so much sad as I am angry at myself. My plan is to eliminate all foods from my home that I know will tempt me , at least for awhile. I don't know if you are able to do that, but it helped me the first time around and I am sure it will now. Success begins at the super market. If the family wants goodies, convince them otherwise for your daughter's sake if not yours. When out avoid places that have these foods that are standing in the way of your goals. No reason to go anywhere that they are available to you. At gatherings, parties, etc. it will be harder. Eat healthy before you go. Can your daughter get on this plan with you? Buddy up. She will love the results. Be sure to eat enough that you are never hungry. If you need a small treat make it 100 calories. I found small muffins and I like Fiber one 90 calorie fudge brownies. Have with tea or hot drink and be satisfied with that. You must change the mindset of I can't to I can. Do you know that if you can resist a craving for at least 15 minutes it most often goes away. Best of life to you and your daughter. Don't make any more excuses in your own mind for what you are doing. There is no reason you cannot succeed. I am starting fresh right now today and I am sure I will stop this insanity of eating junk I don't need. I hope to see you on this board and hope to find you doing well.