Yeah it is an ugly word. But I have to admit I feel fat and I am fat. It's a bad mindset but it is where I am. When I look at my body it is literally fat that I see.

well i bet there's a great person under that '''''''
i feel bigger then ever,and
that sounds better.

Yes it is although I am the first to admit I am fat. Today I overheard 3 men talk about fat/obese women. I didn't think it would bother me as much as it did. Being obese myself I have to say I now look at these 3 men through different eyes. I was supprised at the 1 man who started it, one never looks at me anyway and the other I never really pay attention to anyway. I was a surprise and it did hurt knowing I was thought of like that just because I am fat.

Yeah..it is crap to be judged based soley on one's weight.

I am glad that you look at it in a less destructive way,lorriejean, I am sure I would have more self respect if I did. I will try to take a page from your book...

Be kind to yourself. It's amazing what negative energy can do. Someone once told me to wear a jiggly braclet, whenever I felt it, I had to think something positive to myself. It really helped me be kinder to myself , and in turn it helped me to take care of myself better. Corny, I know, but it worked to get me out of a rut.
Also, if you think something negative, switch the bracelet to the other arm. Makes you more aware of your thoughts.
My fat is really about hurt. To let it go, I needed to be kinder to me. Beating myself up gets me no where. Imagining where I'm going and where I am on the weightloss journey, keeps me motivated.

FIRST I WAS TOLD I WAS TO
SMALL NOW I'AM BIGGER AND I'M
STILL GETTING CALLED NAMES AND BEING TALKED ABOUT. THAT UGLY
WORD HURT'S .

am fat i dont care wot people say becose no one perfect they have a problem with them selfs the next person that says this to you have a good look at them are they perfect if they are inside is not for say them things i dont call people it not nice your a good person inside thats all that matters big hugs

I agree-- Ive been in public or school where people have said " I dont want to sit next to the fat girl"
I HATE it!
uughh!

Never liked the word myself. It is a negative word and we need positive words. Extra weight is good. It does not bring up those same visions. My husband hates when I say fat but he will conceid that I have some extra weight to lose. I think when I call myself fat, it makes him see me that way and that is not what I want to happen at ALL!!

Yes, that is an unpleasant word.

But it can also be a motivating word.

I would call myself "FAT" as a motivator. I would tell myself "You are fat! fat! fat!" Such thoughts would drive me to anger, and anger is better than dispair because anger drives me to action.

Of course, I would never call anyone else fat.

I'd go with the medical terms. Under weight, normal weight, overweight, obese, severly obese, morbidly obese. Overweight didn't motivate me enough, but when I saw that I was fast approaching obese (a BMI of over 30) it scared the hell out of me! If I was drinking too much I wouldn't want a positive word for my problem, being called a drunk would work better for me. Being called cuddly, or curvaceous, or curvy, or full figured, or nicely rounded, is okay if you have a few too many pounds. But when your health is suffering then personally I want a sharp shock! I wish my wife had said to me, "Look Rob, I love you just the same but you're looking fat and I'm starting to worry about your health" Of course she didn't and I carried on getting fatter!

My boyfriend calls it "chunky". I prefer "fluffy"
LOL