I am recently diagnosed so I am no expert but I would think you would want to keep your appointment with the new dr and just see what he/she has to say before making any decisions. If they try to push meds, etc. on you without enough time for you to think about it, then just tell them you need a little time to process the new info and you will let them know what you decide. You may want to talk with other diabetics (like the people on this site), read a book or two on the subject, so that you feel that you know a little more before making any final decisions on anything.

I have read that Diabetes is the number one self-administered disease. Our doctors can advise and guide us, but ultimately is is our responsibility to manage our Diabetes. In my opinion, each of us should weigh what our doctors tell us with information we get from all sources, and then come to a conclusion. I was dissatisfied with my General Practitioner and my Diabetes care, so I asked for, and received a referral to an Endocrinologist. I still see my GP for most issues, but also see the Endo as well. I have added one more entity to my Diabetes Care Group. Remember, it is your body, and you are in control. I would advise however, to at least give the doctor a chance to help. If after time you feel you are not getting to where you want to me, look for another doctor.

Hi Ray

Try to keep an open mind. And I find the specialist nurses more helpful than the consultant/endo so try and get an appointment with them if you can.

It does sound like you need some help. I have suggested options for getting to the hospital, I think you need to at least try and ask for help from them, don't close yourself off before you even start.

self-administered could u put that in stupid terms so I can understand u phedrick and the thing is the dr is not going to help me hes gonna tell me things I already know that are obv like there gonna preach if u don't take care o ur diabetes when ur 40 ur gonna have a lotta problems like hello I already knew that ur scare tactic aint gonna work on me I wanna go to it I think I will but im not gonna be complinent im not gonna tell them that though cause they will yell at me im just not ready for change but it would still be nice to c a endo on a regular basis

RayRay, you really need to control the language and try to show some control...obviously you are frustrated but they are trying to help you but you don't seem to want to help yourself

Mzizgayle, I think it is more complex than that. Ray has come here and asked for help - so he is aware he needs it. But doctors can be very judgmental. I know this from my own experiences. It is really hard to open up to any stranger and admit you need help, it makes you vulnerable and that is scary. But if the stranger is then judgmental of you and hits out at you instead of offering help, then that really hurts and it can cause lasting difficulty in opening up again to other doctors. So there is conflict between knowing you need help while being scared to ask for it because of past bad experiences as well as Ray's mental health issues .So even getting to this point of admitting he needs help openly to strangers here, and even getting a referral from the doctor and considering attending, is a big achievement, all the more since he is doing it all on his own with no support it seems.

there are better ways to express yourself, everyone gets frustrated at times but when someone says they want to punch people or they don't want to help themselves, then no matter how much we try to help, it won't do any good until they decide to take that first step for their own self

This is a support website and so people will be in need of support, angry, unhappy, terrified, and in that condition you don't always consider calmly what you are saying, things just get blurted out. Ray seems to type the same way someone might talk, in a big long gush or venting style and then posting it immediately.

And what someone says doesn't necessarily reflect what they will actually go and do. Maybe you have been lucky with nice doctors who listen and pay attention to you but I know I have felt frustrated with doctors very often and if asked I might say I felt *like* I wanted to punch them in the face , I have never been a violent person and would never do that in reality, it is a figure of speech which simply means I am incredibly frustrated that they will not listen to me. But I know I have been lucky to have a reasonably good education and have a good vocabulary to express myself, some people speak or type differently for whatever reason . I think we need to look past that or try to anyway.

Feeling like it is pointless even trying or you are not worth it is very common with a range of mental illnesses such as depression. If you feel like that, then although logically you know you would feel better if you took care of yourself, it is hard if not impossible to motivate yourself to do so. This is why depression is so frustrating for family and friends - they cannot see or understand why you cannot do something, and you cannot explain it to them. It can be a battle just trying to get out of bed and do normal activities let alone something like taking care of diabetes.

mzizgayle I cant help it I feel so much better when I vent tempararely I feel like a million bucks and I don't feel better when I say like example what the frick like who says that other then grandparents that act like its the end of the world when u swear lol saying what the frick is ridculose when I use the real swear word which most young ppl do I feel better I took notice over the last few yrs old ppl make a big deal when u swear that act like u killed some one and don't take that the wrong way at all I don't mean it in a rude way im sayin this nicely old ppl freak out when u swear well most its hopeless for me theres no way for me to get motivated at all and I cant get support from my family the only person that knows I wanna end my lie and my depression is my mom shes sorta a bad mom shes good n bad u can say like really what mom don't lecture there son to take care of there diabetes any normal mom would lecture there son everyday to day care of it I do want her to lecture me but then again I don't I do cause maybe it will get me in gear but I don't cause we will get in a huge fight my grand parents are normal mom n dad I told my gram one time I had high sugers that was the 1st n last time she went nuts on me I was happy and mad about it

I do understand in spite of what some may think I don't. (I know first hand.) But the groups here on this site do have regulations we all should be following and there are others that could take what you say sometimes wrong.

Yes we are here to help and to guide a person in the right direction but that person also needs to want to help themselves also

rayray the only way to spend less time at the Dr.'s is to take care of the diabetes. The more you ignore it the worse it gets and it becomes a viscous circle incorporating other body parts and systems. Your best defense against all the crap is to control the one thing then you can tell the rest to go to H e double tooth picks.