I have struggled through the past two years with annoying people. And by annoying i mean those who push themselves to you , saying really wrong things , trying to help you without even trying to understand you. And end up asking you if you feel better. But you don't.

And since the Depression support group is a big one , and we wanna make the most of it to help people and be helped , I suggest that today i'll be sharing with you the worst things you can ever say to a depressed person from my own perspective.

1! “Why don’t you smile more?” / “Smile and the world smiles with you, cry and you cry alone.” /  “Cheer up!” / “Happiness is a choice.” / “Snap out of it, will you?” / “This is all in your mind.“

Believe it or not but a depressed person passes through rough days where they can't even remember what is it like to be happy. Depression is not a switch off button. It is not a choice. 

2! “You will be ok, just hang in there, it will pass.” “This too shall pass.” / “ This is just a phase.” / “Just wait a few weeks, it’ll be over soon.”

I don't seem to understand why is everyone taking depression so lightly as if it was some flew that'll go away in a week or two. It doesn't. It can persist for years and its treatment takes time. IT IS NOT A PHASE WHEN YOU SPEND 3 MONTHS OF YOUR LIFE NOT BEING ABLE TO LEAVE BED. 

3! “Believe me, I know how you feel. I was depressed once for several days.” / “I Know exactly what you're going through“ 

Depression is not a mainstream condition. True , it happens to a lot of people around the world. But this doesn't mean it's the same with everyone. Every depressed person suffers in their own specific way. So telling a depressed person “you know exactly what they're going through“ only makes things worse. Instead of focusing on yourself within the conversation , try drawing attention to the person in front of you. Helping someone who's going through some rough times IS NOT SUCKING DEPRESSION OUT OF THEM. YOU CAN NOT DO THAT. Instead try to understand. Make the person you care about feel as if what they're going through is understandable and that they can communicate their feelings. 

4! “Haven’t you grown tired of all this “me, me, me” stuff yet?“ / “Will you stop that constant whining? What makes you think that anyone cares?” /  “You think *you’ve* got problems…” / “You have so many things to be thankful for, why are you depressed!” /  “Why don’t you just grow up?”

I can't really seem to understand what is going on inside the mind of a person saying these stuff. It terrifies me that people nowadays don't have the patience to deal with a depressed person so instead they turn to saying mean things to them in order to hurt them-as if they're not hurt enough- and judging them. I mean like really ! A DEPRESSED PERSON DOES NOT OPEN UP THAT OFTEN. Where's kindness goddamit?  Why do you have to act like an ass if you could just act nicely. You shouldn't be mean with a depressed person. Really. It's just harsh. 

Alright. This was a very long post. But i hope i was helpful. Maybe next time we'll get talking about the good things to say to a depressed person. Because as much as we wanna be helped, we should always consider helping others in similar situations. 

I hope you're all doing fine. And if you're not , talk to someone. Please.

Hugs.