who is IMU? I am sorry she is gone. Was it a suicide? I am sorry you could not say goodbye....how did you find out?

I just figured out IMU means I miss you....but who died? Was it someone here?

My cousin passed away on Saturday; no one from here. Fatal car crash took her from me and they tried saving her in surgery but she was already gone. My father called me after they let him know but l couldn't ask how; I wanted it to not be true. Friends posted what happened as it was on the news and I learned the rest online. She’s not just another story!!! She’s my cousin, my first best friend. She’s a mother, she’s a daughter, she’s a sister and now she’s gone. I don’t know how to cope.

Thank you billwfriend for your kind words.

I am so sorry for your loss. These things are so hard on those of us left still on earth.

The death of our loved one in such a sudden, tragic way is often difficult to cope with. Our grief can overwhelm us. Obviously, this was a person very important to you and it just takes time to work through the grief stage. I know everyone says that. Right now allow yourself to feel how you feel, cry, talk out loud to her and say goodbye out loud. Maybe even write a letter to her pen to paper saying how important she was to you and how you are going to miss her. Later on, if you need to, join something like a "grief share" group to gain more coping skills.

I talk to those I liked, loved, or knew, who have now died. I talk in my head or out loud if I am alone. I believe we have souls and those souls can hear us talk to them. I also believe our deceased loved ones can come to us in dreams.

I had a dear friend die a few months ago. Everyone liked this woman and she was a huge important person in my life. I think I was pretty important to her in the last few years also. I grieve for her and had a huge pity party, poor me loosing her. Then her soul came to me in a dream and talked to me about coping and moving forward in my life. She was her normal old self giving me practical advice. Because I had talked to her in my mind saying how will I make new friends (my pity party). She reminded me in this dream that life goes like this, up and down and I will overcome this time of grief and lack of friends. Anyway, I felt comforted and she is right - just keep going day to day and I will find new activities and friends.

I am so very sorry for your loss Lady

I'm hugging you

May she rest in peace...xo

That is so sad....for her family now to not have mom can really be hard....but the extension of family is hard too....you have a right to be in shock.....it was not something anyone wants to learn about suddenly....I am hugging you with Sunclouds squishy hugs

I am sorry for you loss as well. I lost a son, 37 yrs. old in a car accident as well in 2005. I understand your grief and I will be praying for you.

Hasty_05 thank you and I am sorry for your loss as well. I really needed to hear those positive words. Your friend seemed like a beautiful soul and with good insight. I also like to think I can still speak to my cousin and my cousin to me. I woke up to a flock of birds in my backyard after hearing she was gone. I want to believe it was her offering guidance and insight in my time of need as it is said for some believers.

I think I need to try the grief share group. ..that’s a good way for you to make friends as well with people who understand. I hope you’ve made friends and it’s easier for you today than yesterday.

Thank you Suncloudjd, I really appreciate it. It is something I need right now (a hug).

Billwfriend, thank you as well. I am very much in shock. I don’t want to believe it sometimes.

Oldbiker, I pray for you as well as a father should never have to bury their child. Thank you for keeping me in your prayer and I pray you continue to have the strength that keeps you going today. I’m sorry you lost him at 37 and so young. My cousin was to turn 31 in a few months. They were both young… again I’m sorry for your loss.

Everyone, thank you for being there for me even when struggling yourselves. It means a lot.