I just learn to be alone.

I would counteract that statement with 'Why do people use us' Why the need to Lie? and hurt others?

I do get so tired of it don't you!?!

On the other hand, we teach people how to treat us. I am not trying to victim bash here, but looking back on my own life I can definitely see that I tolerated some bad behavior. And because I tolerated it, it continued.

All of you are right in your own replies! It's bad when you're stuck
in a situation and have to put up with it ! My daughter and I became
homeless after her Father died, because the only home we knew
at the time was that one! For over 3 years now, we have been
living between my parents and friends!

I guess you just learn to accept a person the way they are as you come and go and are around them. Not necessarily buying everything they say, not really needing to. There are just so many different types of people in the world and for the most part they mean no harm to us. It's more the doing that will probably change our attitudes towards people and even so we can learn to accept them depending on if we are around them a lot and whether we want to be or not.

My expectations of other people depend on so many things but if it's a person that I am laying my heart out to I may be put off by a thing or two, even that would depend on if the person has things they're dealing with.. in other words I've learned I can put up with almost anything.

Mostly removing yourself from those who grate on you will help immensely, the rest you have to weigh your expectations.

Ahh... I've been repeatedly destroyed by people.

It takes me quite a bit longer now to warm up to others, but it's simply not in my nature to dismiss everyone I come in contact with.

I'm learning to trust my instincts.

"........How can anyone build trust in an individual, when their words are lies?..........."

You should not trust a person if they have been proven to lie to you.

A person has to earn your trust.

This is an issue that I too am working on.

~Peace to you~

I think there are a lot of us who have been betrayed over and over . Don't know why and really don't care anymore. It's on them for being such lousy people. Yes, you do learn to be happy on your own even if you are in a relationship. It feels so much better to not have too high,if any expectations of anyone. I work on me and when I do that I feel happier. I think a lot of people lie to themselves. I don't know of anyone who is in a great relationship. Sad,huh? It's a hard place to get to,but it works.

You must have some people in your life that you care for or they care for you. (I have been living between family and friends for 3 years now).

As far as trust, I have learned to lower my expectations of others and myself. I also believe in the saying, "you teach people how to treat you". I guess if people are running over us or lying it is because for some reason we allow it. I strongly put myself in this bunch.