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Why I Have a 9 to 5

MelT2020
MelT2020

A stranger recently made a comment about idle hands and it totally triggered me! 


I totally forgotten who I was!  When I don't have structure I am very unhinged! I overeat, over shop, extreme gambling (I lost $20,000 in one night back in 2020). I'm an extreme/manic person that can majorly self destroy.  Yes, I could get a part time job.  Yes, I could get a remote job.  Heck, I could totally quit my job, sell my things and live off my 401k for minute. BUT, I NEED STRUCTURE!


So, the next time you hear me whining how my friends and family are retiring early...or whining that I hate my office life - please remind me this 9 to 5 life is a choice I made to keep me from idle hands!!!!

hasty_05
hasty_05
I totally get this, Mel. I can make my own structure but I have to have purpose in life. Structure to me is purpose. When I have nothing to do, idle hands, I get bored and lonely and order too much online clothing that I don't need.

Consider how well you know yourself. This is not a bad thing to need structure or purpose. This is how the human brain thinks or what our minds, bodies, souls need.

I had to retire early for health reasons and I had purpose for a few years. Things blew apart on my volunteer things and friends leaving this world last year. Now I flounder on some days and it drives me crazy.
Community LeaderSunCloudJD
SunCloudJD
Big hug Mel!

I get what you're writing as well

Do you think you could be bipolar?

I am and way overspending is something that I really struggle with not doing

You've wriiten that your office environment is toxic and that's a lot different from idol hands

I had to leave work quite a long time ago for health reasons and It messed with both my identity and purpose

You know what works best for you sweetie

No idol hands for Mel!!...
xo
BlueYonderDreams
BlueYonderDreams
I am the same way, Mel. I need structure.
BlueYonderDreams
BlueYonderDreams
I am the same way, Mel. I need structure.
GreenEyes727
GreenEyes727
Good morning Mel! Busy hands are best! I do best when I have structure and I also get energy from people. I could never work from home. You can still complain about things that bother you.
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