Depression Support Group

Depression is a real and debilitating condition that is often misunderstood by family and friends. Its meaning can range from a prolonged period of sadness to an actual mental illness with specific symptoms. Find and share experiences with others who are going through the same struggles.

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Heidiclark 12/02/2011

I have a really hard time posting my own feelings and problems here at DS and usually just try to help others. I don't really know why it's like that for me, but I really struggle with this and seem to be able to support others, but can't seem to feel okay about asking for support for myself. Sorry to anyone who thought I might have all the right answers for them----I don't even have the answers for myself. I hope I didn't make it seem like I was okay and just trying to fix everyone else----but I guess that's what I was doing. I don't even know it this makes any sense or not or why I'm suddenly trying to open up more here at DS....Sorry......I'm a little confused right now.....

deleted_user 12/02/2011

Your comment made perfect sense to me. I have a lot of trouble expressing myself and asking for help, too. It's perfectly okay to ask for support, that's what we're all here for! And just because you're struggling doesn't mean your answers aren't good...I'm sure you've helped many people on here.
I think it's good to be open about your feelings b/c then other people can give you the support you need :) please don't hesitate to ask for support, you deserve it as much as everyone else *hugs*

Heidiclark 12/02/2011

Thank you disappointment. I will try to work through this somehow---even if all I can do for now is post about how hard it is to post.....at least that would be a start I guess....

deleted_user 12/02/2011

I think you'll get many people replying to this post, with similar stories about themselves Heidi. I also struggle to say how I truly feel here on DS.. And lately I've been unable to be supportive to anyone on here.. None of us have the answers Heidi...But we must never stop looking for them and trying to be the best we can be. You can mail me any time, if you feel unable to post on here.. Your a great mother too btw!!!

Heidiclark 12/02/2011

Thank you lonesomesoul, you're a great friend.

turtled 12/02/2011

Well it can be hard opening up if your problems are very personal. Also for me, I know many times I've stopped myself from posting because I feel like a jerk posting about my petty concerns when I see others dealing with death, abuse, and intense suicidal urges. Sometimes we might fear being judged or people telling us things we don't want to hear-- that can cause hesitation too.

It's great that you are doing your best to support others. I hope in time you feel comfortable enough to share your own feelings and problems more easily. When that time comes hopefully we can offer you adequate support and good advice :)

Heidiclark 12/02/2011

Thank you turtled! You are all so wonderful!

deleted_user 12/02/2011

No one has the answers. We just have our own experiences to draw on and try to help others get by as best we can. You are a great person for supporting other people, kind and nice. No one in my experience gets upset that others offer support and what knowledge that they have.
Don't feel bad for offering your knowledge and support to others, that is admirable! And It can be hard to open yourself up to people. If you ever want some one to talk to feel free to message me.

beachside 12/02/2011

Hello Heldi

Your post makes alot of sense to me; I very much understand and have compassion for what you are saying. You're a lovely lady, you have helped me and many others in the DS community. Message me anytime for support and just a chat. You're a wonderful person, mother and friend.

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