BlueYonder, I'm sorry you're having such a difficult time. Sending hugs and prayers your way.

xoxoxo
spiritsprout

You said "I know it's not really a lot, but it feels like too much. "

I don't know. That seems like an awful lot to me and I would feel a lot of anxiety too. It seems like these problems come at us in waves. Stress doesn't seem to care if you have one thing on your plate or many. All we can do is try and face things one step at a time. My therapist had me try this, so maybe it can help.

Break down each thing happening and write them down. For each of them, write what your fear/worry is. For example- you feel guilty because someone else is driving you down to the office. Now, turn that fear/worry around. Write what the BEST case scenario is. (That person driving is happy to help her friends, for example) Now, think of what can be done to help that GOOD scenario come through. Maybe its something simple like giving that person a card saying thanks or a $5 gift card to a coffee place- somethingeasy and simple. Do it for the entire process. Instead of dwelling on the bad outcomes, flip them and see what the best ones are. When you see those good outcomes, do what steps need to be taken to ensure those happen as best they can. For example- rather than being worried about providing proof of your bills, make a list of those bills and gather them all in one big envelope. Write down totals on a separate sheet of paper. Now you have taken control of the situation and can confidently give them all your paperwork knowing you included everything.

Its hard to do at first. I still have a hard time with doing it. But I have also seen that so many of my fears were turned into posistives because I knew what the final goal I wanted was going to be.

Good luck. You CAN handle this. I believe it, and so can you.

Thank you spiritsprout. I could use the prayers.

Thank you so much Prospero. That is wonderful advice. I am going to do that because it sounds very helpful.

It is a lot and you have every reason for feeling as you do. I give you a lot of support for going through what you are, and still holding strong. I know every where is different but we have a bus system within the regular bus system that costs so much each way and will pick you up at home, then pick you up from where they dropped you off, and take you back home. Have you checked into something like that? I know how horrible it feels to ask others for a ride. I can't drive, more then I can drive due to dizziness and anxiety. I had to drive myself to the doctors this morning because I had no-one to take me. I took the back roads but it really caused a lot of anxiety for me, knowing I shouldn't be driving. I am so glad to hear that you are going to see a therapist next week. Try not to worry about things that haven't happened yet. 90% of what we worry about, never comes to fruition. I know, easier said then done, but please try. I hope everything works out for you. I hope you will let us know.

I know all about that feeling the the world is conspiring against you.

I have had the worst year even. I had a car accident, spine surgery, my husband left,took all the money,today a sheriff came to my home and gave me forclosure papers on my home, my doctor called to tell me I have a form of cancer...

But life goes on...tomorrow is another chance to get it right or fix wthatever is wrong. You will accept help and someday when your able, you will pay it forward to this lady or someone else in need.
Just do what needs to be done today and stop thinking about tomorrow...you aren't promised tomorrow.
I try to treat everyday like it's my last, never say anything you will regret because they might be your las wordst. Never waste time because it's fleating.
Be strong because sometimrs strength is all you have.
Good luck

you have lots to deal with...its normal to be feeling overwhelmed.

please try to not feel guilty about having some help....to me, that's what life's all about :)

i'm so sorry you're dealing with storm damage...glad you have a therapy appt. coming up.

i wish you peace. remember to take some deep breaths, eat well, and drink lots of water...helps the mind and body to deal with stress.

((((hugs)))))

You've gotten some really good advice. I just wanted to add that I don't drive either. I know how tough it can be asking for a favour and being dependant on someone to follow through. Is there some way that you could be helpful to the woman who drives you? Help with housework, laundry, babysitting, computer help? You get the idea. An exchange of services is much easier than feeling like a burden. At least that is what I have found.

I hope everything works out okay for you. Hugs Kelley

BlueYonder, you're going through a lot right now. I think it's very common to feel anxious in your circumstances. Prospero has some wonderful advice on breaking everything down into manageable steps. I have found that making a list of what I have to do, and numbering the steps makes me realize that I CAN do it, one step at a time.

Yard by yard is very hard, but inch by inch is a cinch.

As for you feeling guilty about having people drive you place...well, do something for the people who help you. If possible, pay for the gas. If that's not possible, be sure to help the people...help them around their house, make a meal for them, babysit or dog-sit. And also write them a nice thank you note. Many people love to get thank you messages.

Hang in there. You can do these things one at a time. Keep posting here, we care.