hey, .. whatever works best for you.

Because its easier for them to assume that you are stuck up, snobby, conceited, whatever...when people don't know you. I've had it happen to me before. I had one girl tell me that she thought I was the biggest snob but after we became friends, she realized I wasn't a snob after all.

I used to be really shy around people I didn't know, and was told, years later of course, that many people thought I had my nose in the air. Nobody gives anyone the benefit of the doubt anymore, or makes an effort to get to know someone new.

Their problem, not yours. I wish I could answer your question of "why". I stopped wondering why long ago. ...takes too much energy.

I've been called "stuck-up" and arrogant as well, in the workplace. I did not participate in gossiping about others, even walked away from those kinds of "conversations".

When you do that people then begin talking about YOU.

Be who you are.....there's nothing wrong with that. Peace to you.

You remind me exactly of someone I started working with about 6 months ago. She keeps to herself and doesn't socialize with others at work. But she had made degrading comments to me sometimes. I guess I was pestering her too much. This really bothered me about her because we are in sales and she happens to be an excellent sales person and I wanted to learn from her. We went to lunch one day and she was totally nice and outgoing and super smart. She told me when she is at work she focuses on her job and her job alone. She is probably the hardest worker I know. When she isn't at work she is totally different. I had a new view on her. I think some people are just very focused on what they are doing and very disciplined. She is one that is. I felt very shallow after that experience. Everyone acts in a different manner depending on their past experiences. I think sometimes people just make too many assumptions about people too quickly. This is the beauty of life. Everyone is an individual and everyone is different. As long as you are being who you are, there is no reason to care about what others think anyway.

Assumptions are being made about you and for this I am sorry.

I got so sick of it myself that I smile when I don't feel like it & always am polite & professional even to the meanest (not assumed here) people at work.

Hugs

Well did they go out of there way to talk to you ? they could be the arrogant one's.

60% of communications is body language.

I am sure you have experienced this personally you can sense who people are feeling.

It is not right for people to expect you to be the life and soul of the party that is not what we are work to do we go to work to do our job.

Often we have to interact with people that judge us they are wrong , there are only two judges God and a Court of Law

It is hard to change or control our body language that never puts a face on it is what it is.