Depression Support Group
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ok...so i know i have to work real hard to keep from being depressed...but i don't know what this other problem is and i don't know where to post it so i'm posting it here and hopefully someone will direct me in the right direction...
here it is...i know that when i start isolating myself from family and friends that its the depression messing with me...sometimes i give in and sometimes i don't ....but when i'm not feeling the effects of the depression i find it very hard to spend time or to make time for my mom...
for the last two weeks...i have been meaning to take my son over there to spend a couple of days with her...but everytime i plan to take him (like yesterday) i find all kinds of excuses and things that i have to do...and before i know it...it's just too late to go and so i don't....mind you that i am a night person and that too late thing is really just an excuse...why do i do this with my mom?
about my mom...she is the strongest, most independent, self-sufficient person I know....she raised me to be the strong-willed, independant, self-sufficient woman that I am...all by herself!...I love my mom...i had a great childhood...and have no complaints about her or my childhood...sure she was a little strict...coming from a fundamental southern baptist background...but I'm glad that she was because it showed me that she did love me and want the best for me...
sure we have our differences of opinion now that i'm grown...but i've set clear boundaries with her and we don't go there on those topics...so what is the problem?
why do I avoid her as much as I do? why does visiting and doing things for my own mother seem like such a chore and waste of time? is the depression? is it her? is it me? what the heck is going on here?
can anyone help me out on this one?
any comments or suggestions will be greatly appreciated!
here it is...i know that when i start isolating myself from family and friends that its the depression messing with me...sometimes i give in and sometimes i don't ....but when i'm not feeling the effects of the depression i find it very hard to spend time or to make time for my mom...
for the last two weeks...i have been meaning to take my son over there to spend a couple of days with her...but everytime i plan to take him (like yesterday) i find all kinds of excuses and things that i have to do...and before i know it...it's just too late to go and so i don't....mind you that i am a night person and that too late thing is really just an excuse...why do i do this with my mom?
about my mom...she is the strongest, most independent, self-sufficient person I know....she raised me to be the strong-willed, independant, self-sufficient woman that I am...all by herself!...I love my mom...i had a great childhood...and have no complaints about her or my childhood...sure she was a little strict...coming from a fundamental southern baptist background...but I'm glad that she was because it showed me that she did love me and want the best for me...
sure we have our differences of opinion now that i'm grown...but i've set clear boundaries with her and we don't go there on those topics...so what is the problem?
why do I avoid her as much as I do? why does visiting and doing things for my own mother seem like such a chore and waste of time? is the depression? is it her? is it me? what the heck is going on here?
can anyone help me out on this one?
any comments or suggestions will be greatly appreciated!
You could just try to get out and about more if it's just becoming more to yourself that's happening.. it's a natural response to feeling down.
For me, the fact that she was so strict when I was a child is a barrier between us. I do not feel 100% comfortable with her as an adult. I am not angry at her.. yet, being with her seems draining to me.
Perhaps the depression makes it more difficult, but it was a problem before I became depressed, so it's not 100% the problem. I was raised strict Catholic and always felt "guilt" if I was not the perfect daughter.
These may not be true with your situation, but yours struck me, because I am having lunch with my mom tomorrow and taking her to Walmart (ugh).. and have that little feeling of dread again. I'm sure I will have the desire to cancel in the morning, but will not..
-Sandi