whoops! grammar police!

"when at the same time sending out signals" [sic]

"....when at the same time they send out signals...."

I think you find liars on both side of the fence. Do you think it could be the type of women that you prefer over others? I don't know if that makes sense or not. Maybe you could change your requirements for women and find a nice girl that will not lie to you.

I guess I mean women on the fast lane in life, or that you meet in bars, (they don't lie, most of the time they can't remember). If so, look to other places for a girlfriend. You may be surprised.

I saw your picture on your profile page and it's not because of your looks that you're getting stood up. I'm thinking it has a lot more to do with your drinking and drugging and suicidality that women shy away from you. Perhaps you can get into some counseling and address these issues.
Those are just my thoughts.

here is the thing, i never ever speak about my negative thoughts when i meet someone, i know it would be a huge turnoff. the other thing is, i dont understand what it is suppose to take in order to attract someone. i am always polite and smile when i am out and i see someone attractive. i never get so drunk at a bar that i embarrass myself, unless its during football season and i get a little crazy then. overall i feel as i come off as a confident man who has something to offer. i am just sick of these women here locally, they just really upset me to no end with lies and false hopes. i have even tried using the internet as well, i fail there miserably too. i feel it is because i dont have a top end job and have money. i am on SSI and i am trying to go back to school to get a degree and a real job. i guess whatever i am, it is not good enough, nor will it ever be, i am about to just give up

When we love ourselves, we emit positive vibes.

I read this and feel your discontent. Can others feel it when you are face to face with them? People like feeling good in social situations.

I'm hoping you find some great companions soon. There are some very honest, worthy women out there.

Good luck.

oh lawdy it's been a long time since I had a date/accepted an offer of a date, due to matrimony, so let me see if I can throw in my two cents in an effort to explain a little of it. Myself I always followed through when asked BUT the phone calls between the accepted offer and the date were usually where apprehension would arise. I ended up for the most part not accepting offers from someone I just met and opted for someone I was a little more familiar with. I can only speak for myself and say it is just a matter of lack of similarities that a lady or man may not be aware of before that first date. Maybe if you try and ask ladies that you are already much more familiar with, I'm sure you are a great guy. Hugs.

You may have mentioned this and I missed it, but I do have another question for you...

What types of dates are you asking this (these) women out on? Movie, dinner, dinner & a movie, Ball game, museum, you get the point.

Perhaps for just a cup of coffee for starters if you haven't tried that yet.

well this woman that i asked out was very familiar with me, she has seen me, knows who i am, etc etc. so that is why i took it so personally and feel as if i am worthless, yet everyone else thinks differently. how many times can i get rejected until i feel good about myself? normally i only go out to see a friends band play and that is the extent of what i would ask someone. yea sorry that i am not a renascence man and know everything and can fit in any social situation. going to a movie imo would be a worthless move, how can you get to know someone that way? being on a fixed income and living in a shamble of a apartment with my roommate i am too embarrassed to ask them over for dinner. god has made for damn sure that i will suffer forever, my situation financially will not change because i am on a fixed income. so explain to me again what my useful purpose is here? because it certainly isnt to be with anyone, i am cursed to die alone because of all my sins. nice life isnt it?

well this woman that i asked out was very familiar with me, she has seen me, knows who i am, etc etc. so that is why i took it so personally and feel as if i am worthless, yet everyone else thinks differently. how many times can i get rejected until i feel good about myself? normally i only go out to see a friends band play and that is the extent of what i would ask someone. yea sorry that i am not a renascence man and know everything and can fit in any social situation. going to a movie imo would be a worthless move, how can you get to know someone that way? being on a fixed income and living in a shamble of a apartment with my roommate i am too embarrassed to ask them over for dinner. god has made for damn sure that i will suffer forever, my situation financially will not change because i am on a fixed income. so explain to me again what my useful purpose is here? because it certainly isnt to be with anyone, i am cursed to die alone because of all my sins. nice life isnt it?

No offense bud, but how can you get to know someone with a loud band playing? You have a point about the movie. Not a good place for conversation.

I stand by the going out for coffee thing. That's a great environment to talk, and if its your first date, she should feel comfortable.

Here's one last idea from the Lance's School of Romantic Date Ideas (LOL) ... Summer is here and its a great time for a picnic. Pack a cooler and have at it. I 'll give you a money back guarantee that you'll have a great time.

no point in going anywhere when every time and i am talking about the last 3 attempts, i get blown off. i bet this is gods way of punishing me because of all the horrible things i have done all my life. there is no other answer then that, i am cursed, doomed and being forced by some unloving, uncaring entity to be alone forever

keepitsimple....You only need one. If all these women said yes, you'd have too many! Only one will do, and you haven't met her yet.

A lot of us are honest. Just keep trying. YOur find the right one for you.

Before we go on, listen to this song:
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=O7LzUSWg8uE

Now, after listening to said song, let us begin...
From what I can see, in my opinion, women seems to be a bad idea at this point in your life. I would say work on yourself before even thinking about bringing in another woman. If you don't like your present situation, think of ways to make it better. Maybe another job? Maybe go back to school? Whatever you do, figure out how to improve yourself to where you can appreciate yourself. You are the most important person in your life so figure out what you can to make the most important person be important.

Why can't ANYONE (male OR female) be honest? They don't want to hurt your feelings. They don't like hurtful or ugly confrontation. In short, we're afraid.

Unfortunately, when it comes to romance, yes, humans (men AND women) play this "cat-and-mouse" game. The secret to winning the game is pretend you have other options, or REALLY GIVE YOURSELF other options! Say, to these ladies..."Oh, well, I never heard from ya...I'm going bowling" or whatever.

You can't be devastated every time simply because someone doesn't return your phone call, text or online invitation. Like Mike Damone, asshole in the movie Fast Times at Ridgemont High says, you've got to have "the attitude". "The attitude dictates that you don't care whether she comes, stays, lays or prays. No matter what happens, your toes are still tappin'."

Got any hobbies you enjoy, and can enjoy doing SOLO, all by yourself, if necessary?