Depression Support Group
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I've been in a bad place lately. My marriage is a wreck and I feel like my husband doesn't care because he's just too busy with work and too tired when he gets home. Yesterday I went along with a bad idea of his just to keep the peace, even though I knew it was wrong, and I got called out on it. As though my depression wasn't bad enough, now I feel stupid for caving in for the sake of not arguing and I feel like a horrible person for the decision I made. I had all these plans to get done this week and now I just don't want to even bother. Why should I? I feel like a bad wife and a bad mother, and those are my two biggest roles in life. I've been a failure my entire life, when is it ever going to change?! I can't accomplish anything. I can't get ahead with anything. I can't even make the right day to day choices that are common sense for everybody else! I feel like a total waste of space right now. My children aren't learning anything good from me, I contribute nothing to the world around me and my husband is more interested in work things than he is in me. And after reading all that, you can plainly see how pathetic I am as well.
I just feel done.
I just feel done.
Could you ask your husband to take a day off work or arrange a family day out at the weekend so that you can all spend some time together. When things at work get busy it does make things difficult and does make depression worse when you feel that you are the last consideration but I'm sure that your husband doesn't mean to make you feel like this
If he can't take time off could you take your kids out? Getting out and doing something different might help
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Some people just make me second guess everything I do. I don't know if it's just because women are so tough on each other or what, but I am constantly seeing things that other parents do and realizing that I am not a good mom in even the slightest sense of the word. I know what I do wrong, I just don't know how to change it. Same with my marriage. I know we're doing it wrong, I just don't know how to change it. I don't know how to be different than I am. Other people learn and grow and I have been stuck in this same damn place for YEARS. Apparently, I will never learn.
but first things first...
most people fail at most things they do, mostly. if it werent for failing, we wouldnt know when we've succeeded. seriously, how fun could life be if you never failed at anything? its the rare successes in life that make it worth living... and it only does that if we remember to notice those successes.
you have 2 happy and healthy children that youve kept clothed and fed and educated for, well, i dont know how long... but thats something ive never been able to accomplish... even a little bit.
i dont know how you feel that youre failing as a mother, but if it has anything to do with buying designer clothes and a stack of I-crap for your kids... id say dont worry about it. look at how your grandmother was raised... if youre doing the things that were done for her, youre doing a GOOD job. if youre not, then that is where you should be looking to find out what 'good parenting' is... not the "parents" of today.
do your kids throw fits in the middle of shopping centers? do police have to pepper spray them at school? are they drug addicts and theives before they turn 10? if not, id say youre doing a GREAT job.
and speaking of grandmothers, heres a peice of advice she gave me... you may want to read this line to your husband....
she said...
everyone grows a little every day. if you want to have a life long partner, you have to work HAR to make SURE that youre both growing in the same direction... because if youre not growing together, you'll be growing apart.
i hope something in here has been helpful
*hugs*