Depression Support Group

Depression is a real and debilitating condition that is often misunderstood by family and friends. Its meaning can range from a prolonged period of sadness to an actual mental illness with specific symptoms. Find and share experiences with others who are going through the same struggles.

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Alyblueeyes 02/02/2018

Why can't I get better... Why do I have to act happy..... Im so weak. I've been cutting again and it's starting to be more frequent deeper and harder..... I just don't know what to do anymore.

question 02/03/2018

You don’t have to act happy. I don’t know who told you did have to, but while that may help some individuals who are in therapy/treatment/have a healthy outlet to feel better, it also can be extremely harmful. I used to cut too. It’s hard to stop, but I really hope you do. I know that seems like a ridiculous thing to ask of you especially when things are going so hard. But I really pray you do stop. There is always a risk of infection or cutting too deep, and it would be really awful if something happened to you. Have you tried medication? If so, have you tried multiple different medications? It took me quite a while to find one that actually helped helped much at all… But it was worth it. Prayers <3

Zuhair 02/03/2018

I agree with question. You really don't need to act happy. Just be who you are and act what you feel. Being optimistic does not mean to act happy.

Please, try to stop or minimize cutting. Just keep trying.

Praying for you

nightfire 02/03/2018

you should speak to a therapist and doc and unlike some that may say whatever, i totally get the i have to act happy thing, you know im here to talk to :D

WanderingVet 02/03/2018

So ... the cutting is not helping. I say give that up.

Cicatrices 02/04/2018

I don't know about you, but people are constantly telling me to smile, asking what's wrong, and telling me things aren't that bad. So yea, I get it. Most people aren't comfortable with the idea of someone being out of place. And regardless of how you feel they want to make you fit into the correct "role". I'm not happy and I don't want to act like it. Sometimes it's easier to let them think you are a bitch. It doesn't matter what they think anyway. I'm a cutter too, currently in remission, but I think I know how you feel. I feel hopeless and insecure. My tendency is to become a recluse just to avoid the annoyance. Unfortunately I don't have a solution to offer. Sometimes the only way out is through, even though I know that's a terrible cliche. If there was a magical solution none of us would be here. As for me, I went to a partial hospitalization program, which is outpatient, so you aren't locked up. It was very intensive and not only was there therapy but medication management. It helped me a lot when I was at the end of my rope. I hope you find something that helps you. Even if it is just taking to us here.

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