It sounds like something is wrong with your ex husband. What kind of a man leaves his wife 2 days after giving birth?

Someone who is very selfish. It’s not you, it’s him.

Kelley is right. He is a loser. And i think you are feeling hurt for your kids because every kid should have the other parent in thier lives but he made his choice and the fact he choosesto love with his gf AND her husband says his choices aren't something to be desired. If anything you should be grateful to have that kind of decision making away from your innocent kids and the fact he has outright abandoned you i would hang him to the cross in court. Child support, alimony whatever you can get. I personally am not the vindictive sort except when it comes to children. Those kids are innocent and he puts his needs ahead of thiers. Hold you're head high momma! And don't let his actions make you feel Amy less than awesome. He gave up. You did nothing wrong

I agree with the other two posts. It's a pretty cold man who would do something like this.

What a complete asshole. There is NOTHING wrong with you. You have every right to be MAD....PISSED OFF...ANGRY AT HIM...hurt...feeling betrayed.

We are not made of stone...when someone betrays us...it's going to fucking hurt. If they humiliate us...it's going to hurt. You can feel those things and get angry. You deserve too. Don't pretend it away.

And what kind of person is he dating that allows him, her ex husband to live in the same place? Be happy you are the functional one who drew the line in the sand and wanted before for yourself and kids.

It's not your job...to demand him to be a better father. He terminated his relationship with you...not his kids. It's his job to step up and if he doesn't...don't blame yourself. Spend time healing, work on yourself and find a better father figure for your kids.

Something similar happened to a young kind beautiful friend of mine. Pregnant with her husbands second child and he literally was with his mistress as she was giving birth. I thought how brave she had to be...how strong she was...and horrible and selfish her husband was.

If you're jealous...just know in time...he is going to bring out his selfishness and assholery for the new woman.

Distance yourself, enjoy your newborn baby...and be proud of your strength...in a shitty situation.

Sending you light and love!

I am so sorry for this pain you are feeling, it sounds like he's in complete denial. Like he runs from his problems and doesn't see the pain he's causing you. But more important is you and your children, use them for strength and hone in on what is most important to YOU.

Your husband is a tool. That's why. You deserve better. He treated you badly, and I'm sorry you are going through all this. It's all on him though. It was his choice to leave you two days after you gave birth and to do all those other things. He's going to have to live with the decisions he made.

Sounds to me like he is the skunk and you are the VICTIM. I hope he is paying HUGE child support. If not, take him back to court for more. This guy deserves NO consideration ... not even from his kids.