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Last week I had a miscarriage. It would have been my first pregnancy..My husband and I have been trying since last october and before I even knew I was pregnant, I found out by my docotor I was having a miscarriage. She said I was expiriencing something called a "Chemical Pregnancy." My husband seemed sad the first 2 days and seems to be okay while I am screaming on the inside and crying myself to sleep every night. I feel so alone. We have been fighting and he has been accusing me of cheating and hiding things from him. (I am NOT cheating nor hiding anything.) I do have a issue with not telling the truth and that has always found a way to bit my in the booty so I am being extra careful to be truthful but he is not having it. Nothing I do is enough. I feel like he will never fully trust me. He told me earlier today that "any normal person would dump my a** so quick." When he says things like that I can't help but thing he wants to leave but is too scared. I cannot keep going on being accused of nasty and evil things. I am trying so hard to better myself but he does not see it. So I guess what I am saying is that I feel very stuck and I am swallowed into this dark cloud of depression...
I also think you should try to find a therapist/counselor so that you're not trying to heal with the loss all by yourself. Hugs!
Thank you so much again :)
Hubby is not your friend, ally, helpmeet. He doesn't even like you. Why are you trying to have a baby and lock yourselves into this dysfunctional hell?
with an innocent child? This wont' make things better, it will make them exponentially worse. Children add pressure, don't remove it. And differences in morality between mum and dad lead to bitter, acrimonious divorces where one person's left holding the baby, and the other's left with no access to the baby. Just don't do it to yourself!
But I have to say, that most people have a lot of miscarriages they don't even know about. It's very common to spontaneously abort. Your body is creating an experiment, two half-strings of DNA come together and see what they can achieve. A lot of the time, it's a bust.
Look into it. It's perfectly normal, and means nothing about your ability to carry a baby.
But look into it from a new house that isn't anywhere near this guy who thinks you're dirt. Don't live with a guy that thinks you're dirt. Don't have a baby to a guy that thinks you're dirt. Leave! And if you can't leave? Go on the pill! Don't bring a child into that nightmare.