Depression Support Group
Depression is a real and debilitating condition that is often misunderstood by family and friends. Its meaning can range from a prolonged period of sadness to an actual mental illness with specific symptoms. Find and share experiences with others who are going through the same struggles.
I am a woman who adopted her sister's children 9 years ago when she suddenly passed. Both of these children are now 19 and 16 and have many depression issues regardless of everything I have tried to give them. They did not struggle financially, were given lots of love and I even left my husband due to their unhappiness with them. They both are getting professional help, they both are on the proper medication... yet my 16 yr old calls suicide hotline last night because she's depressed. I'm physically and mentally exhausted, alone, sad, angry and disgusted. I have been that parent that goes and seeks help as much as possible for them. They have been given all the proper tools and advantages. When does it end? When will I just have peace. It makes me sad that I pray for the day they are on their own and adults....is that awful of me? I'm starting therapy for myself but feel so incredibly alone. I still love my husband and yet we barely see eachother.... its a mess. My friends are so busy with their lives and they are not going through what I go through and don't understand. I don't know what to do anymore.
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Does anyone follow her? She's really got some good tips.
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to improve your situation.
Good luck to you and no matter what- keep talking and seeking help.
xoxo
When my 19 year old struggled with depression, anxiety, ADD, Aspergers, bullying, cancer,failing the ninth grade, and lonliness, I could only think of him. My husband didn't matter, I didn't matter. Just Josh. I think that's how moms are. For me I had to do a lot of praying and then more praying on top of that. And I think it made a huge difference. Josh is cancer free, is working, he makes A's and B's in school, has a girlfriend, and is about to get in to a semi-independent living arrangement. So, yeah, he's come a long way and your kids can too!
With the kids being older now (16 and 19) and the fact that they have all the struggles ...that they would consume all your attention and create a rift between you and your husband.....it is only natural (and yes, you are only human) that you would look forward to the day when they will become strong enough to begin to venture out on their own.
It does sound like you have done all that you can...supporting, loving, and giving them the tools to help them with such a difficult traumatic beginning (losing their mom, your sister)
I just pray you don't let this be at your expense. I was glad to hear that you are seeking counseling for yourself as well. And, if you and your husband truly do love each other and want to be together that you do just that. (You should not have to sacrifice your relationship because the kids want you all to themselves.)
My thoughts and prayers are with you (all) as you continue with your journey.
No, it’s not awful of you to look forward to the day when they are adults on their own. I did the very same thing, and they were my own children! And now that my kids are all grown, I find that I miss them as they go about their adult lives (not TONS, just a little :) ). I am glad that you’re taking care of yourself through counseling, and pray that your counselor will give you sound advice. I also hope that you and your husband will be joined together again soon! It would be great if you two could help each other through this rather than you going through it on your own. That’s one of the benefits of marriage! Thankfully, nothing here on earth is forever, and as I was raising my three kids, I would take comfort in this verse: “And it came to pass…” No joke! I even have a plaque that says that and I take great comfort in it with each challenge I face. Hang tight to the Lord, and he will bring you through this!