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When will I be satisfied?

mtmsuper
mtmsuper

Hello all it has been quite some time since  I have been here and I hope everyone has been doing okay. I wanted to ask some advice on how y'all handle things when depression hits.. I find Myself often trying to set goals to look forward to to keep myself out of an empty depressive spot but the issue is when I reach the goal instead of being happy I feel empty and wonder.."what now?" For example I finally got a home and it was something I worked hard to get very stressful and I figured in my head once I get the house a lot of my stress and depression will go away. But now that I have the home the victory doesn't feel as good because now I wonder what now? I have a good job and a nice home but it still feels empty inside and it's defeating. How do y'all handle such issues when this happens how do you cope to look on the positive side of things? It feels like I set a goal and I'm chasing happiness that seems to never come.

Supercoolcat1984
Supercoolcat1984
Yes it feels like I always chasing the happy times when they should be able to come nature back too u. I guess that's why we depressed cause we want to hear amazing things we are doing
Bobby5000
Bobby5000
It is a tough questions, they have a successful football coach, many try to win the championship, he does, but once he achieves the goal seems unhappy and looking to the next task.

1. Try to work the rational side to recognize this was a great accomplishment and compliment yourself.

2. Consider other tasks which help people and make an impact upon the world.
blueskiesinjune
blueskiesinjune
I’ve experienced this too. Years ago my dream was to compete in bodybuilding. My first goal was to step on stage, after that it was to place first. This past august I placed first and almost won the entire show. You’d think I would’ve been over the moon, but I felt sad that the journey was over.
I find that often I enjoy the journey and the struggle the most because I’m still looking forward to something. I also found that when I receive gifts, I’ll hold onto them for weeks because I know once I open them, the excitement and curiosity is gone.
After you’ve achieved whatever it is your after, all that’s left is gratitude. The initial excitement dies down and all you have left are memories. Making sure to recite gratitude versus during those times are important.

When it’s all over, instead of thinking damn where’d all the excitement go? I try to think “wow I really did that”. And thank god that it was an experience I was able to have, even if the happiness only lasted a second. Then, plan something else to look forward to. Set different goals and make sure to enjoy the journey.