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crazymoon5150
crazymoon5150
Has anyone here been screaming for help and those around it just falls on def ears?
I feel like everyone around me my husband included makes me feel like I am doing this for attention,crying, not getting out of bed, feeling like everything is hopeless, it is bad I have never felt this bad in my life , I dont even get dressed, I know I need help.
I try to talk to him about it ,he just looks at me as if he does not want to be bothered by it ,my parents change the subject back to all their problems my friends have all gone into hiding .
I was there for everyone ,for years, picking up the pieces, a shoulder to cry on, took care of my husband when he had surgery, and was "Depressed" well his sister diagnosed him, years ago when he was laid off from his job that was outsourced, I am not demeaning him I knew he was to a point ,but I was there for him, dragging him out of the house, making him get up , see a doctor, worried about him , like I did with all my friends, and family when they needed it.
I know there is something wrong ,I cry all the time , I don't leave the house, I don't do anything, I call my Doctor , who in turn told me to go to church counseling and that 'We" all get depressed at times in our life, I've tried to find other Doctors, and it's the same thing ,I go in there and just tell them what is going on with me and they tell me they don't prescribe narcotics, OKAY I wan'st asking for any, why are you telling me that ? I ask for an antidepressant ,and they tell me I don't need it I just need to get up and get some exercise,
I have never felt more invisible in all my life , what really hurt is when my husband of 19 years asked me "What do you have to be depressed about ?" Then I just spiral down further because I feel even more worthless because I just can't get help.
deleted_user
deleted_user
There are physical things that can cause this and I went through it , your 40 is it possible your having hormone drops ? Or like me you could be low in progesterone which causes a list of problems including depression . I am now on therapy for it , but due to life issues i turned and had situational depression right after and I can feel the difference . The hormone issue is just like you describe. If you think this could be possibility go have blood work at a gynecologist office and see what they find . you may be heading into Menopause .
gramybear
gramybear
I don't understand your doctors at all! The first thing they should be doing is getting blood work done, immediately. Secondly, they should be sending you to a therapist to find out what brought this depression on in the first place? Is it because of hormones, lack of serotonin in your brain, relational, what? To just throw you under the bus like that is irresponsible and if you want to print this out and take it to show your doctor, by all means, please feel free! And I will give him my name and number if he wants to talk! I'm sorry but I am so fed up with these so called doctors that say they are here to help, when all they do is try to make more money! I do have to say one thing, however, and that is you can't look at what 'YOU" did for others and now they aren't reciprocating. We do things for others because it's put in our heart to do so, not because we expect something in return. So keep that in mind, okay? If your friends are now gone because you are having a rough time, then were they really friends to begin with? And shame on your husband. He needs to go to counseling with you so he can understand what you are going through. There isn't anything worse then having a spouse who isn't there for you when you need them the most. I hope you will find new doctors, find a therapist that treats depression, and ask your, no, tell your husband, you need him to go as well so he can understand what you are going through. Please let us know how you are doing. Hugs GB
sunnyinla
sunnyinla
I agree with Nickie49. I myself am about to turn 40 next month n my hormones are wacked. My bloodwork shows I'm in early menopause n my physical b emotional pain us very real. Please get your hormones checked n see if that is your culprit.

Best wishes,
Roni
gustokitty
gustokitty
I think Nickie49 really picked up on something! That may be your issue(it may not), but def a good place to start and rule in or rule out. I think also, you remind me a bit of myself, and I am going thru therapy and still coming to terms with this, and still working on it. But I too, would do just about anything for others. And then, like you when I needed them, they were no where to be found. They did not understand, or it seemed even try to. I became very disillusioned. The doctors however, did throw anti-depressents at me. Unfortunatley though, I don't believe any of them checked my hormones, and I did not know to ask. I feel apx 70% of drs and phych drs/therapist are a joke. When I was about 20 I first when to drs complaining of depression. Explained how I would have bouts of tears and whatnot. He said same as you heard. You are too young to be depressed. That was you wasn't it? He never asked a thing about what might be going on, or had gone on in my life to lead me to it, just oh, your too young, don't be ridiculous kind of statement. The sad part is, these drs still get paid!
gustokitty
gustokitty
......meaning they can be as lousy a dr as they want, it doesn't matter. Somebody somewhere will have crappy enough insurance to have to go to them. The others will go, and move on, but meanwhile he still keeps getting paid by everybody. I don't think very highly of drs, if you can tell. I think they have let me down more than my friends did! My friends only human, and far from perfect. Drs are getting paid to be damn near perfect and they are no where close.
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