I have talked a lot in therapy and posted here about some people who have caused me a lot of stress and anxiety.  When I stopped assosciating with my parents and brother a lot, because my brother is physically violent and dangerous, this older couple invited me to their home on holidays and such, and said that they were providing a "safe space." It's been anything but.  There have been men there who act basically like "grab the P." And some of them wouldn't keep their hands off of me. One of them has been obsessed with me for like a decade. It's been awful.  I've always had issues with setting and maintaining boundaries, and have a tendency to get involved with and manipulated by people.

This couple never took responsibility for anything, always promising that things would get better, etc. Never did.  When I said that I would not date their friend, I got the silent treatment for almost this whole past year.  My calls and texts were completely ignored, including my invitation to a Christmas concert last week.  There has been tension, fights and arguments and it has been ongoing. I was not invited to Christmas dinner this year. Day before New Year's Eve, there was one of their usual get-togethers, and I was dreading it in the pit of my stomach.  I said I had a cold and didn't go.  That was true.  I could have gone, but really was not comfortable at all.

So what happens? The very following day-New Year's Eve, after being completely ignored and treated like garbage when in their presence, I get this long, gushy, overly-emotional voicemail saying "how much they care about and appreciate me." It was really long. For some reason, this really put me off, I found it incredibly offensive.  Lately, I have been hearing from people from the past, old boyfriends that were total assholes, friend requesting me. This type of thing, and it always goes this same way-they tell me how great I am and how much I am appreciated.  This happened in my domestic violence situation too.  I ignored the message, not sure if I would respond, so I gave it a few hours, and then I got ANOTHER text message, saying "Happy New year". That one I answered, but I'm thinking "Why?" It just felt like this obvious attempt to keep me from leaving.