Depression Support Group

Depression is a real and debilitating condition that is often misunderstood by family and friends. Its meaning can range from a prolonged period of sadness to an actual mental illness with specific symptoms. Find and share experiences with others who are going through the same struggles.

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angelite 04/05/2008

what is the point in being honest when no one takes you seriously? i have been telling my boyfriend for the past 2 months we need to be careful with money while i was out of work, yet he continued spending money on unnecessary things and reassuring me we will be fine.

i have told him for the past 2 weeks that i did not have the money for bills this month.... no employment, unemployment benefits are being fought and awaiting my hearing..... that means no income for me right now! yes, i did just start a new job, but i haven't seen a paycheck from it yet. and 2 weeks ago i had no clue i would have this job right now anyway.

i am so angry because he seems to blame me for our money problems right now all of a sudden, when i have been the one worrying and being careful about it. he would complain when i went to the store to buy groceries (we have to eat!!! and he eats more of it than i do actually) yet he could go get fast food every other day and go drinking with his buddies.

ARGH!!!!!!

deleted_user 04/05/2008

also, he is prolly lashing out since guilt affects us all differently. he may know he didn't listen when he should have and is taking he guilt and anger at himself on you. not right but could be it. i am sorry he is being a jerk. it will get better but this is one of those times to maybe have a serious sit down about how his actions are affecting you and what the two of you have.

angelite 04/05/2008

we do split everything equally, until recent events... we will most definitely go back to that when things get back to normal.

deleted_user 04/05/2008

tell him to f* off out of your house until he gets a job.

angelite 04/05/2008

he has a job.. i lost mine after having a panic attack at work about 2 months ago. i just started a new job wednesday... but that is 2 months on only his income, which is not enough.

deleted_user 04/05/2008

well I don't know what to say. I guess it's your life so I'll leave the others to give advice.

angelite 04/05/2008

i wasn't trying to offend you or anything alive, i was just wanting to be sure no one thought we were both lazy bums who can't keep a job... it's very much the opposite.

i appreciate any advice given, but that is not why i posted. i was just upset and wanting to vent and find people to listen. that's how support groups work.

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