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Since I've read several posts on this, I have to ask. The media portrays it as a happy go-licky feeling, one of safety, etc. I could win the lottery and I'd just shrug. So, any feelings of "luv" aren't there. I've been told I'm just afraid or a coward to "luv." I honestly don't get it. Yes, I've admired some women over the years. However, I think that was more biological. I like Pepsi and maybe I thought Katie was attractive because she was a redhead and had nice legs or Michele enjoyed helping children or Jamie's devoutness just struck me with awe. I saw it as either just seeing someone with admirable traits or just objectifying that person (People judge me by my appearance and I don't like doing the same. Darn biology). I can't how that is supposed to leading to feelings of love, a relationship, marriage, etc.
The Catholic Church defines it as an act of will. I can understand that to a degree. Many people had their parents as examples. I can't say that here. Why? I didn't know my parents' anniversary until I was 17 and it's still a non-event and I still can't remember it. Did they feed and clothe me? Yes, but my father always wanted to show he was financial more well-off than the neighbors and the rest of the family (I'd say buying his parents their home proved that). it's why I have a roof over my head and not on the streets, can't have a homeless son. One could say that all of this was more pride or obligation. If someone disagrees with me and says it's love, that shows how little I know.
I used my AAA on strangers the past years, paid for some people's gas or groceries, etc. Some might say that's love/charity. However, I could have decided not to have done that and felt nothing over it. No good feelings were involved be it it sunny or raining hail as I waited for their tow truck. So, that's an act of will although all I did was dely getting my Slurpee, which did please me when I got. Given my lack of "happy happy joy joy " feelings or inability to have them to be exact, the pleasure I get from a Slurpee or a Pepsi allows me to experience the feelings many supposedly have, however superfical and pale it maybe in comparison.
I could go on, but I don't know the text limit here. So, I'll stop for now.
The Catholic Church defines it as an act of will. I can understand that to a degree. Many people had their parents as examples. I can't say that here. Why? I didn't know my parents' anniversary until I was 17 and it's still a non-event and I still can't remember it. Did they feed and clothe me? Yes, but my father always wanted to show he was financial more well-off than the neighbors and the rest of the family (I'd say buying his parents their home proved that). it's why I have a roof over my head and not on the streets, can't have a homeless son. One could say that all of this was more pride or obligation. If someone disagrees with me and says it's love, that shows how little I know.
I used my AAA on strangers the past years, paid for some people's gas or groceries, etc. Some might say that's love/charity. However, I could have decided not to have done that and felt nothing over it. No good feelings were involved be it it sunny or raining hail as I waited for their tow truck. So, that's an act of will although all I did was dely getting my Slurpee, which did please me when I got. Given my lack of "happy happy joy joy " feelings or inability to have them to be exact, the pleasure I get from a Slurpee or a Pepsi allows me to experience the feelings many supposedly have, however superfical and pale it maybe in comparison.
I could go on, but I don't know the text limit here. So, I'll stop for now.
I now must go wash out my mouth with soap. Very embarrassing to express this, but there were no other replies, so I figured I would at least post up an opinion.