Yes-!

And I usually just push a lot of weight in the gym to deal with it, to keep me from hurting myself or someone else (!).

You go right ahead and vent.

Maybe some alone time, away from the laundry, the wife, the kids (including the 11 year old with aspergers) is in order-!

We all get stir-crazy sometimes. My dad walks, plays golf and works out at the gym too to avoid having to deal with my mom all the time.

Got any in-person male buddies?

Of course. Anyone would, in your situation. I don't know what to say. But, I do understand what you're feeling and I think it's totally expected in your situation. Maybe try to sleep it off?

Some time out for yourself every now and then is ok. Have a routine 'my time' every week. try exercise like Koolman to release those happy endorphins and you may feel like you can handle home stuff better once you have addressed your needs.

I tend to delude myself and think things like this should brings couples together so I'm going out on a limb and saying work on your relationship with your wife as you need each other...

I like Koolman's post.

Koolman you once again have hit the nail on the head. This man knows when to hold em and knows when to fold em.

Hang in there, a break does sound good, and a long talk with the wife. Then after your break take everyone out or something.

Then find a way to talk with your 11 year old. Try a two way device or something that he or she can commuinicate with.

Good luck and remember to breath.

It sounds like you have no time for yourself, which is very unhealthy. Try to leave at least an hour a day to taking care of yourself and relaxing. And, faking one's emotions can only cause one to build up more stress. Tell the wife that you are feeling overwhelmed and just need some time every once in awhile to unwind. Perhaps a drive to the country to enjoy nature may help?

thanks for the advice guys, but conversations with the wife fall on death ears, she works midnights and is off every other weekend, where she could help out but a majority of it still falls on me. its the summer i get no rest, the minute i come home from the 9-5 she goes and lays down for a nap before work, on weekends its all me, and dealing with a child with aspergers is nto easy, great advice and i am gonna try but things arent that easy at my house. thanks guys alot

Yes, I have. If you had read my journal yesterday, you would have thought we were twins! Life is hard and I'm sure you are tired by the end of your work week. Is there a reason why you do the laundry, clean, etc? Do you share the responsibilities around the house? Maybe it's time to keep that mask off and be who you are. Say how you are really feeling and maybe you and your wife can sit down and talk. Does she know how bad you are feeling? We all need support in our lives. I know a little about Aspergers. I don't mean to sound unfeeling but that is your child and your child needs you. She didn't ask to be born with Aspergers but she does need your love. And it sounds like you need a lot of love around that house too. Have you guys tried family therapy? That might be just what all of you need. I hope you can work this out for all of you. I hate to see that look on your face.

I can relate, vent as much as you want, hugs

Gramy i know what you are saying, and i have tried to talk to my wife but it does not work out, i do the laundry and all that caues if i dont it wont get done. as for keeping the mask off thats not a wise thing to do. As for my daughtewr, i love my kids both more than life itself i would go to the ends of the earth for both my daughters i am there for her as much as she lets me, she is high functioning, so she acts normal for all accounts she needs guidance on things, i dont ask alot of her, she only has to take care of her own stuff, clean her room bring me dirty clothes clean up her mess if she makes it,

Thank you for making things more clear for me and I am sorry that you have to do all of that extra work just to have it get done. something just isn't right. I know you love your children more then anything, that is apparent. I wish I had the answers for you and help you somehow. I can be here when you need to vent, yell, and whatever else comes to your heart. It sounds like your wife has no clue as to what she is doing to you! It makes me feel sad.