It is just how it is. It dosent have any set cycle it is like this for people without depression also. Life sucks a lot. and in between you get little moments of happiness if you are lucky .

that is a hard habit to break. Pessimism....

waiting for the other shoe to drop, to be cliche.

You will have to make extra sure to notice the good stuff, nature & flowers, what peace you can find, comedy, etc....

Bad does not ALWAYS follow good, and bag & good have different levels and such. Keep your chin up!
(((hugs)))

Hi gooch
It's so nice to hear that you are having a good day.

when I am having a good day, I don't think about the bad day to come because I so appreciate the fact that I'm having a good day !!!!!!!!!!!

When the bad day comes, I say, " this to shall pass" and I know the good day will come.

No one knows what tomorrow will bring- good or bad !!!!!!!!!!

Here's to you having many good days, weeks, months and years.

((((((((((( hugs )))))))))))))))))))

Start speaking good things to happen, instead of thinking bad things are coming. We can create our own world just by the words we use everyday! We can break the cycle and transform our circumstances t his way! hope this helps! : ))

Hey there. so happy to hear that today is a good day so when i have those good types of days i try to ride it out as long as i can and i try to use it and store it in my pocket to help me through those hard days. i know those feelings of having a few laughs with friends and then coming home after that type of meeting and thinking like......great that was fun but i know somthing stupid will happen to me in a couple of days. hang in there and savor every moment of those good times

I don't think you need to worry, I took and extra helping of bad this week so the rest of the world should be good for a while. I wish for you nothing but a bad case of the giggles.

HI there...Yes, I find that the "waiting for the other shoe to drop" syndrome is quite endemic to those of us who have 1) Had a difficult childhood and/or 2) Suffer from depression and/or anxiety. In fact, it's been scientifically researched that our brains eventually develop into a groove with this kind of thinking. It's kind of like a groove on a record player. From what I have/am learning in both therapy/research and reading books about it, the way out is long and often challenging, but that there IS a solution:
It's basically retraining or "re-recording" if you will, a new thought which over-rides or superceeds the old frightened one that we are all accustomed to.
I currently use meditation and "thought reframing" to deal with this as it's a tough one for me too. The meditaion helps me to have an objective mind that can observe, "Oh, I'm doing the "Chicken Little" thing in my mind again, hmmmmm, how interesting- (meditation teaches how not to judge when a negative thought comes up). Then I do the "thought reframe" thing which goes something like this: "OK, things have been going good and I think that means that the sh*t is going to hit the fan, BUT in fact it just means that things are going good. That's all. Things will continue to do so, until something changes, which DOESN"T have to be a bad thing. It could be that something neutral happens or some other good thing happens. The bad is just what I expect but that is a fear thought and I choose not to feed into it right now. (and on the off chance that something bad does happen, I will be abe to handle it!)
Hope that helps.

One thing my therapist said that really helped me was that I need to get comfortable with uncertainty. Actually, I've been reading a book on Buddhist psychology and it says the same thing, that we are so frightened of the unknown that we would rather imagine terrible things and ruin for ourselves what could be a good moment if we were just willing to live with the uncertainty.

When we meditate, we are getting to know this place of spaciousness and groundlessness that is our self detaching from ego, and the more we meditate, the more comfortable we get with it.

Learning to stay in the moment is also immensely helpful. When we worry, we are jumping into a future that has not yet arrived, and so is only fantasy. When we feel guilt or sadness we are usually stuck in memories, which have no tangible reality. NOW is the only reality, and when we are here NOW things are generally pretty good!

Some of the things I do to help keep me in the now and OK with uncertainty are:

Meditation

Crafts (crocheting is good, and so are lots of others. things that require enough concentration to keep your mind from wandering but not enough to be stressful)

Reading, especially something positive or edifying

Music

Dance or other exercise you enjoy

Good movies

Cooking

Mantras are great! If you are telling yourself over and over that life is full of joy and that love is in everything and that your place in the universe is intact and an integral part of all life, there isn't room for worry. You can make your mantra whatever you need at the moment, like an affirmation.

Affirmations and gratitude lists. When I am aware of the good in myself and my life, I take the focus off of what might go wrong.

Mindfulness; this just means being fully present for whatever you're doing. If you are eating an ice cream cone, you will notice the taste, texture, coldness, how it feel on your tongue, throat, in your stomach, you will notice the breeze or the sun on your skin if you are outside, the hardness or spring of the earth under your feet, etc. All of your senses awake and engaging your mind.

There must be lots more, but these are the tools that are helping me lately. They don't take away the depression, but they do make it more manageable. I wish you lots of great, worry-free days!

see #6 =) !

Today has enough worries, let alone tomorrow. I have realized that we can't control the future, so worrying about it does no good. (I am still working on this). Live in the present, it is a gift and the only moment we have. If it is good, go with it, if it is not so good, we have to deal with it. Much love to you, stay positive! (I need to remind myself of that as well). Hugs...

gratefulheart said "Mantras are great!" - to that, a long time ago I learned this thing where when you go to sleep at night, as you're drifting off to sleep (actually, it was from a meditation and self-hypnosis tape), you TELL your self, that tomorrow when you wake up, .... just how good your life will be. Go through all the things you want to MAKE good. Then when you wake up, the FIRST thing you do, is go over that Again, and remind yourself of it.

It works.

Also, someone else said and it's true, bad things happen - period. So, it becomes less important that they are around the corner and MORE important HOW we navigate THROUGH them when the Do come. This way, we're not shivering and losing GOOD TIME, waiting and worrying.

Good and Bad come like the tide, or cycles of the moon. And it would be foolish to try to prevent either one from happening. Just gotta accept it all.

Very good replies here! I think most of us are guilty from time to time of expecting the worst. It's something I am working on, definitely.

What helps me the most is to think of everything I've overcome--and it's an awful lot! But I am here, I don't give up, and I know that SHIT TRULY DOES HAPPEN. :P

Meditation and exercise are my favorite remedies... followed by a super hot bath and a glass of wine!

LIFE IS EITHER A THREAT OR A PROMISE. IT IS A CHOICE. WHICH ONE SHALL WE CHOOSE? IT SEEMS WE ARE THE OWNERS OF OUR LIVES, SO WE CHOOSE HOW WE WILL ACCEPT WHAT LIFE SENDS. IT ALL SUMS UP TO GOOD IF THAT IS WHAT WE CHOOSE.

a friend told me once..everyone has stress, it's just that each person handles it differently.

it sounds like you're scared of something happening. hope ur good days continue tho.