It's good that you're Changing and becoming a better person, same thing happend To me and I can say that I am such a better person because of it. You and your ex probably just wherent meant for one another. You will find somone else, just be hopefull and work on yourself as much as possible

I would like to start out by saying you my friend are human .We all have have made mistakes along the way. What matters from this day forward is what you do now. You cant go back so no sense living your wrongs over again. Make a plan for the future focus on future goals . It will be energy well spent.

Hi. I don't know the situation but I can relate to you. It's a difficult thing to embrace a new reality without that other person, whether you knew them, long or not.

Hopefully you'll get to a point where you don't wonder what your ex is doing or who she's doing it with, a point where you wish her well. It's a horrible feeling when you don't even know what you're doing. I've been there before. I find during those times I kind of run on autopilot telling myself to do the next right thing. Sometimes it's little, tiny things I do. One little right thing at a time. Putting one foot in front of the other to continue on with life.
You posted your feelings here. That's one right thing. Would I sound like a broken record if I said to give yourself time? Give yourself time. Leave the past in the past.
Today be kinder to yourself than you were yesterday.

You just hang on in there. If I'm reading you right, you gave her the kick. This means you had your reasons.

they get undermined as you miss the person; but they're no less real. If you go back, you quickly remember why you broke up. It's like an addiction, like smoking. You just have to crush out that last packet and weather the storm because going back for one last ciggie just livens up the whole nightmare again.

Don't worry about what she's doing now, or who with. She's not with you, it's over, you may as well wish her every happiness and let go. She wasn't right for you, and it won't be long before you've got over the hump and are feeling fine again.

But it is awful going through it, and you question everything; which is great. It's good to go through periods of questioning everything. That's where wisdom comes from.

You just hang on in there. and as Robin says above: think only of the next thing you have to do. She is dead right.

Trust me. :)

Thank you everybody, I've been having good days and bad days. I wish things could be different t but as y'all said give it time.

The big thing that stands out form breakups that I've watched is that people who move onto the point where they do not look to their ex for validation do better.