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I walk my dog and sit and cry at the park. There is this man who talks to me quite a few times there. I was surprised he remembered me from last fall. Anyways he always tries to cheer me up. I was shocked the other day he invited me over. Said he wanted sex. I thought he was joking trying to make me feel better. After all i am really ugly and obese. So i have never been asked to have sex with someone before. I am really old also. I saw him again and this time he was direct so i completely understood what he said. He said he wanted sex.
Is it crazy that i want to do it. I have never had sex with someone i wasnt involved with. I like the idea of just having sex with someone and knowing that it will only be one time and that is it. Im not looking for a relationship. I think i want to do it. I am going to think about it for a week so im not impulsive. I do wonder if its my depression that is making me want to do something i would not think of doing if i wasnt in this state. I worry if i do have sex then i will want it all the time and i wont find anyone to take care of my wants and needs. Its that switch has been broken off so long im afraid to turn it on. Maybe its better off than it turn it on one time.
Is it crazy that i want to do it. I have never had sex with someone i wasnt involved with. I like the idea of just having sex with someone and knowing that it will only be one time and that is it. Im not looking for a relationship. I think i want to do it. I am going to think about it for a week so im not impulsive. I do wonder if its my depression that is making me want to do something i would not think of doing if i wasnt in this state. I worry if i do have sex then i will want it all the time and i wont find anyone to take care of my wants and needs. Its that switch has been broken off so long im afraid to turn it on. Maybe its better off than it turn it on one time.
He is only wanting SEX...you will feel awful after....even if you are obese...and as you consider UGLY......that does not give another human a right to take advantage of your low self esteem.
I suggest...if you want to re engage in having sex....you'd be better off...joining an on line dating site...and getting to know someone...who will accept you and who you will accept....be it...a one night stand....but not out rightly saying its only for SEX.
Please respect yourself....and love yourself...and if you just have a desire to have sex....you be in the lead...and YOU select who that will be....don't put yourself in someone elses control.
And you could be saving someone elses life.
I think nothing worse can happen to me that already has. Im already dead. So i cant be killed again. I see this as a little break from my horrible reality of life. Something different destructive to distract me from my pain for a little bit.
B CAREFUL...................................
U WANT MORE THAN SEX............................
U WANT A WORKING RELATIONSHIP...........................
GBU
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#1 you get physically hurt..beaten or even killed .
#2 you get an STD..herpes is for life and AIDs can still kill you.
#3 It goes well and you get emotionally attached to him and become his puppet.
A better plan is to join weight watchers..Ive seen it work for several people because they teach you to eat healthy. Join a gym where you might meet some nice people. There are women's only gyms if you are not comfortable being around men while you try to lose weight.
You didnt gain the weight overnight so it might take awhile to lose it but
you can set interim goals and the accomplishment of those will help your state of mind.
Beauty is in the eye of the beholder. The tv show Mike and Molly is fiction but its based on relationships that really happen. Find a man who will
respect and love you, not use you like a dishrag and throw you away when he's done.
forced to give up one or the other the sex would be gone.
Perhaps you can pick somebody safer, that is traceable, and tell somebody where you are going, and to check in with you, to make sure you are ok.
I dont see how Meeting a person at a park is different than a bar and going home with them. At least the man is honest.
I agree with you in the fact that it isn't any different meeting someone in the park, in a bar or anywhere else for that matter. There are bad people everywhere & most often we don't know how bad they are until it's to late! I hope I don't offend any of the others who have encouraged you NOT to have sex with this man, BUT if you are absolutely certain that you are able to have "just sex" without it causing you additional depression or lower self esteem I say go for it!
I DO AGREE with some of the others on the topic of safe sex & personal safety!!! If you sincerely don't care about a relationship or ever seeing this man again, I would strongly suggest making him provide ID and telling someone you trust the details of your plan. However NONE of that will keep him from hurting you once your alone! Go with your "gut" if something feels wrong DON'T DO IT!
Just my opinion, anonymous sex can be pretty HOT!