You have a hard job. You can only do so much. Keep being there for them and hopefully it will turn around. You sound like you have a good heart.

I had a hard job babysitting years ago. I used to feel so strongly for some of the kids who I thought were not being treated right.

there was nothing I could do in a lot of cases that weren't bad enough to report, but still weren't perfect. In the end I had to let it go.

You do what you can: but the individual has to do something too. We all have choices. And we all have to take ownership of our own futures.

I can so relate to your story. Two of my granddaughters ended up in Foster Care because my ex daughter in law left the girls alone and went out to party. A neighbor called the police. I was living in San Diego so I found out after the fact. Thank God my ex husband was able to get custody until everything was worked out. My son had to deal with his dad committing suicide and unfortunately he didn't handle it, he turned to drugs to think he could forget. He stayed away from me because he didn't want me to see him that way and it hurt me deeply. I to suffer from Bi-Polar depression and more, so it made not being able to help my son, even harder. I want to give you some hope here and not just all bad news. My son woke up one morning and realized what he was doing to himself, his children, and to me. He got clean, turned himself into the Salvation Army Rehabilitation in San Francisco, and spent 6 months there getting clean and turning his life around. I believe there is the desire in every human, to be healthy, happy, and to not destroy their lives. You do have a good heart, that is apparent, but you have to make sure to take care of that heart Some things are just not in our control, as much as we wish they were. If you ever want to talk, please feel free to p message me. And trust me, this family and others, know how much you care, and that is something that they will never ever forget. Hugs

There are these siblings; One Boy, 5 Girls; whose Father committed suicide back in July 2010 and their Mum is unstable and toxic. The Girls 'know too much' and are cheeky as Hell. (they think I'm after their Mum; Fat Chance) Their Grandfather had 13 siblings and that whole Family are at war with each other. The youngest of those young siblings is only 7 and already she has a Facebook account. (wtf?)

One can only feel sorry for kids caught up in all of this.

Thanks for the comments and support. It really helps.

Everything you do to help these people makes a difference, even if you can't see it. Keep doing what you are doing and know that it is having a positive affect.