have you tried to talk to your wife about the amount of stress this is having on you? take care

Agree with the 1st reply. This is too much to carry on your shoulders. There must be some communicating with her about this. Please also consider calling suicide prevention if you are indeed having feelings like this. They have had a very positive effect on many people that have felt just as you do right now. Please don't carry this weight alone.

Hi, My wife and I spent $1500 on our's and people still say it was the best wedding they have been to, because it was so relaxed and people had no choice but to mingle with each other. You don't hav2 spend alot of $$$ just to have a good wedding. good luck.

Please with kindness as my motive, tell your brain to STOP. I have been there and that is even difficult. But if you were in a car accident and bleeding, would you not go to a doctor and get medical care.

part of the depression is our perceptions. yes, these problems are hard and would make ANYperson feel like you do. look at how many reality shows there are on weddings (i.e. Bridezilla, etc). however, our depression focuses on the bad as REALLY REALLY BAD. perhaps look at it another way: you\'ve found someone who thinks you\'re fantastic. hope that helps.

sorry that you\'re feeling badly. a 30,000 wedding, whoa! as for friends, people are wrapped up in their own lives, don\'t take it personally, that\'s how people are. you have to be strong, because leaving this earth is not the answer. it sounds like you could use a total break though. i can be a friend to you here if that helps.

Hang in there,man! 30 Grand does seem a little steep for a wedding,and they can\'t get blood from a stone if you don\'t have the money. You may have to have a long talk to your Daughter about what you can do,realistically. I\'m sure there are people on here who have dealt with weddings,too! Best of Luck!

reisen ... I know whats its like to carry alot of loads on ones plate ... and I also know that there are many days I just wish I didnt have to face the next day .... BUT you do have worth .. You do have something ... its called life such as it does sometimes its still yours. Believe me... money can be a big stressor .. But Money in any amount is not worth your life .... And you wife you need to tell her enough is on her plate .... she needs to share part of the burdens emotionally to be part of the solution... I dont consider anyone a failure and you should not be so hard on yourself :) we all have faults and worries that is what makes us human ... and full of worth

Nothing is worth you dying before your time, I agree. talk to your wife and let her know. Please be strong at finding a solution for this, it\'s not worth you life.

I DON\'T BELIEVE THAT YOU REALLY WANT TO BE DEAD. YOU ARE A GOOD PERSON THAT WANTS TO DO THE BEST FOR OTHERS AND YOUR NOT THINKING OF YOURSELF. PLEASE SIT DOWN WITH YOUR FIANCEE\' AND TELL HER HOW YOU ARE FEELING. YOU CAN\'T BE EXPECTED TO DO IT ALL. GOOD LUCK HUN AND TALK TO US WHENEVER YOU NEED TO.

I think I get what you are saying. It would be far more comfortable to be able to say, "this is too much to spend" rather than "I don\'t have that kind of money".

But that is not to be, at least not right now.

I agree with what everybody else has said. Sit down and talk about things. I worry about people who spend that kind of money on what effectively is a party. The important part, where the couple stands up and promises to be loyal to each other etc, often gets lost in the shuffle.

Don\'t let your sanity get lost as well!