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Wesleymon1
Wesleymon1

It's been about a year since me and my girlfriend had broken up but I still feel really bad about it. Everybody tells me I'm being stupid and I shouldn't be holding on to it. But I am even though I've tried not to. She was the only bit of happiness I ever remember having and I haven't had a good day since. I've gone to therapy, but that doesn't help. My mom and her boyfriend only tell me that I'm stupid for holding on to her. So it's not like I want to talk to them about anything. I don't enjoy doing anything anymore. Most nights I can't even sleep because I can't stop thinking about her. I dont see any reason to keep this life up. People expect me to just be happy but I can't to that,  even though I want to. I hate my life, and I really don't want it anymore. 

alive47
alive47
I understand how You feel except My Relationship with My Ex wasn't as Happy as I wanted I really think He was Happy with Our situation. I wish His and My Relationship would have worked out but it could be one sided it takes to People to keep a Relationship together no just one. Please don't give up on Your Life it will get Better One Day. I was with My Boyfriend a Year and a Half. I broke it off on February 25 of this Year. I am Sorry Your in Pain
Chef71
Chef71
Wesley, losing the woman you love is the absolute worst thing that can happen to a man. IMO, it is harder on the man who gets left, than the woman who gets left, because men need women far more than they need us. And they bloody well know it.
Dedicata
Dedicata
They shouldnt tell you that because you can’t let go. Thats not totally in your control. You can do things to help yourself to move on but at the end of the day... you no longer have that happiness and light in your life and its not something that youre going to just move on from overnight. You can take all the time you need to heal. Thats ok. But one day, it wont hurt so badly and you WILL find other reasons to smile. If you can get yourself to a good place, and can find joy in the small things.. the good things will keep coming. And you will find yourself in a place where you can be in a healthy relationship again. You need to be content and happy being on your own before you can be in a relationship. A person cant be your sole happiness. You cant rely on them for that. Both people need to be in a good place.

Wishing you well and if you ever need to talk im listening!
robotnik
robotnik
You can't force yourself to be happy - that's not how happiness works. When I broke up with my gal I felt the way you did for over a decade. You're in the valley of the shadow of grief - mebbe you're valley is longer and wider than other people's? I finally got to the end of my valley and I'm ok, a better person even, but every now and again I'm right back in that horrible place for a bit before I'm able to move on again.

Now read this:
https://realtruelove.wordpress.com/on-love-gibran/
shadowlady
shadowlady
I'm so sorry. A breakup is a tortuous event. I felt the same as,you when my marriage ended. Absolutely ANOTHING is worth giving up on living for though. Things can and usually do get better if you don't give up and keep trying. Will keep you in prayer. God bless.
Community Leaderbobinmaine
bobinmaine
When I was alot younger then I am right now, I was dumped by my girlfriend, my mother past away, and I lost my job, all in a span of a few months. I didn't want to live anymore either but I survived. I stopped all contact with my ex and she called me up about 3 months later and wanted to get back together but I had different feelings toward her after she dumped me so I told her I wasn't interested in renewing our relationship. I am told that happens often. The ex begins to wonder and eventually realizes he/she made a mistake. Time changes people.

You will heal from this and I urge you to go out and meet new people. You will find someone who will make you much happier, trust me.

God Bless
Ms.901996C
Ms.901996C
Sometimes breakups happen so that it can make room for someone more special and awesome to come into our lives.
Tomorrow is another day. :)
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