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Very depressed and lonely

carolk1955
carolk1955

I am very depressed and lonely and I feel like I have nowhere to turn. I was married for 25 years, the last ten of which I was separated from my husband and had my own apartment. Two years ago my husband died, I lost my apartment and went on Social Security Disability, and lost all my possessions and my car. Now I'm stuck in a personal care home with 17 other people, none of whom I feel close to and rarely talk to. This isn't my hometown--it seems like most of them are locals. I have no family or friends. I would love a therapy group but there are none. I have a caseworker who is no help at all. I requested another caseworker and was told that wasn't possible. I have a therapist who can't seem to schedule me for appointments very often. Mostly I read books to pass the time. I long for some face to face conversation with people and to be able to talk about my depression and anxiety with people who understand. I make too much money on SSD to qualify for peer support. I miss my hometown which is 200 miles away.  I haven't been out of this house in almost a year. It seems like there are no options for me at this point. I miss having control over my life and having support group meetings to go to. Transportation is a problem--I have none. I have yet to find a church where I feel like I fit in. I need some kind of group but it seems like there are none where I live. I feel like I have no life, I just exist in a state of emptiness. In the past year I had all my upper teeth extracted and can't even eat normal food. I have to have another oral surgery procedure in January before I can get a denture, and that's if I can afford one. I pay $1000 a month to live where I am and it's not worth it. I just feel hopeless in my current circumstances and I can't see a way for things to get any better. If I just had one person to be an ally, that would help, but I don't. I hope this group can somehow give me some direction.


sonnycamehome
sonnycamehome
You may want to check out NAMI - The National Alliance on Mental Illness. They offer free peer support groups all over the country, in person, over the phone, and online - no insurance necessary, and they don't check your income. Completely free.

Wishing you peace
Novembergirl1950
Novembergirl1950
I'm here for you Carol ((( comfort hugs ))) I hear you and I understand the depth of despair. You mirror how my life has become, so you are not alone here and this is a great group of people who will circle around you to be here with you.

I, too,live in a senior home, I'm 68 and disabled. I no longer have the life I once had. It's loosing too much of an identity that is just beyond words. A life one once had that is no longer within reach, well, that's something we need to talk about here.

You shared alot of what you are experiencing now, not having the resources, perhaps living in an under-served location. You have tried and tried and reached out, however, you have not given up and are still seeking which is a positive about you. You are a survivor and I believe you can build a life worth living, one step at a time.

Please keep coming back and posting how you are feeling as much as you can !! We want to help you, even though we are cyber friends, we are all here for you. One person in another chat room said this "move a muscle and change a thought". I wanted to share that with you as it helped me.
cbgrace1980
cbgrace1980
I am so sorry you are in such a state of being. Sounds like you have a lot to deal with, and good for you for asking for a new caseworker. That's good that you stood up for yourself. Hard times usually remind me how real that God is, and that He wants us to come to Him and rely on Him. I'm sorry you haven't found a good church, either. Don't give up looking for one. I am going to pray for you. Please let us know how you are doing.
Scott46
Scott46
If you miss your home town, is it possible you could transfer to a similar care facility there?
bethelbee
bethelbee
I'm so sorry you are going through such a difficult time in a difficult situation.. I hope that reaching out here will at least help you a little bit. We are all in similar situations and are here to listen and offer support to each other.
Where do you live? Are you in the states? My county has a peer support hotline that has been helpful. I'm sorry you don't have a better caseworker, hope they will help find you another. Be persistent!
Please keep us posted and let us know how you're doing.
Sending hugs and support!
bethelbee
bethelbee
I just sent you a friend request. Also, I noticed we are the same age...
Community LeaderWanderingVet
WanderingVet
Not familiar with all the updated Social Security changes, but I think in a year or two, you should be able to get quite a bit of SS benefit increase....being a widow, you are entitled to his ... I think. Your financial situation could improve a lot.
jannytheresa
jannytheresa
Sending you a friend request too. I agree with sonny: NAMI is the agency that can advocate for you. It sounds like you need support and therapy.
Thinking of you
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