Oh my goodness I could have written that post but throw in coming out and living with a woman. I struggle with guilt all of the time and feel I have ruined my kids' and ex's lives just so I can feel a little more comfortable as a lesbian. I hope that you can let some of those feelings go through participating in this group. Much love and positivity to you.

Thank you. I was not happy in my marriage. Found a new man that makes me happy. And Im happy with the life we are trying to built together but.. Everyday I feel like I messed up. Then there is my daughter she is 12, not talking to me about how she feels and acting out. I dont know how much is bothering her or what is bothering her. Co parenting is hard to Especially when my ex doesnt want to let go. He tells me he just wants me to be an old lonely cat lady since we didnt work out. So i dont know if I should be happy again.

Well of course you should be happy ! Divorce is hard. Divorce with kids and co parenting even harder. But staying when not happy isn't good. Have you tried therapy for your daughter? That's a tough age.

Im sorry to hear your going through a rough time, I can only imagine the pain your going through especially with the divorce. I know, I dont know the whole story of how things got this way... but one thing I can say is that, despite everything, You should forgive yourself, darling. Dont be so hard on yourself, You had your reasons for leaving, to try to make your life better for yourself and your daughter... Have you thought of counselling to help you get through this? it may help... Im not saying that because your weak or anything, but sometimes we do need to ask for help and thats okay. To be able to say "I cant do this on my own, I need help" takes lots of strength and courage... and Im glad you found DS, as its a start, a place you can reach out!
Know you arent alone, and you can win this fight! Your not alone. Hope this words comforted you

Hugs in this hard time for you. I know it's hard I went through a rough divorce with three children and I wanted the divorce. We are still going through it. Here to support in any way I can. Have you looked in to Counseling it does help. I carry alot of guilt and also having a hard time forgiving myself. Again hugs

Thank you. I was in counceling before. Had to stop going because we moved away. Was thinking it might help with her because she seems to be closed off, she doesnt want to talk to me about how she is handling things. I did the whole staying even though I was not happy for the sake of my daughter for years it definitely did not work. Thank you for all the support.

Divorce is hard on everyone involved, but it sounds like you feel like you made the right decision. What if you just picked up from today and let the past decisions go? Just keep making choices you feel good about each day, like getting some extra help for your daughter...or even for yourself? You matter, too.

I would be acting out also if my mom dumped my dad and very quickly (in a matter of a month or so) hooked up with another guy...