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trying to be happy is pointless

stargirl1121
stargirl1121

hi everyone. today ive been really questioning everything. in class my teacher started talking about the great gatsby and how happiness is an illusion and it really got me thinking. 


i realized it's so true. happiness never lasts forever. like after I complete something that's supposed to make me "happy" I’m like ok cool now what??? back to dissapointment and dissatisfaction? everything i do seems irrelevant. i feel like i want more from life but nothing satisfies me. i want to just DO something but idk what would really make me happy beyond just temporary happiness. don’t even know if something like that exists.


like if there's no way to permanently remain happy it makes me question whether doing anything is even worth it in the first place. if the happiness will just fade away within moments after then whats even the point in even trying right? it's just such a paradox. 


lmk if that even makes sense to anyone 

Tired
Tired
Try reading some books or websites on the subject of happiness. Little things like nature can bring happiness. Hugging your pet etc.
RJW
RJW
Thank you for sharing. Happiness is just a part of the Emotional Spectrum. It isn't an illusion. It is just like tasting a delicious meal only tastes good while eating it. It is things in their place. Love is different, as we can be loved, even when feeling awful. That is something that stays and lasts, no matter our emotional outlook. It is hope to be loved, even when enduring Depression, and something we can share, even while enduring Depression. We might feel unlovable, yet loved ones still love us, regardless. There is a lasting happiness in that. Thank you. God Bless.
blue342
blue342
This is the cranky ol bum in me talking again (who would rather say humbug than merry Christmas) on the subject of happiness but I’d have to start by saying ‘Acquire an unfinishable hobby’...something no matter how long you work at, you will never complete. But it has to be something you really enjoy. For example, mine’s is my artwork (and probably gaming) During the time I’m doing it, I get to be happy. When I put it away, is it like putting my happiness back on the shelf for another time? A bit I guess, yet I know when I return, it’s there too. Happiness can be a bit elusive. Don’t overthink it. Like the wind, it’ll come when it will.
Lendingstrength2021
Lendingstrength2021
I love the philosophical nature of this post. And then you got me thinking about happiness. Like many things it does seem like an illusion or some false bill of goods sold to us through marketing. But then I remembered a hike I took recently with my dog - we were running down the hill together. This was hands down probably the 'happiest' I've been in years. I wish I could have captured it somehow to preserve it forever. I hope the memory never fades - I don't think it was being 'happy,' but rather feeling joy. I think the difference is happiness is fleeting, but joy is more than 'happiness' - it's something that resonates in your soul.
Lendingstrength2021
Lendingstrength2021
Also, I'm going to post this in my journal, but has anyone seen this?

https://www.jewelneverbroken.com/

I just came across it. <3 it.
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