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I am a freight broker and my son and I hire trucking companies to move our customers freight..
We had a driver pick up in Roanoke, TX on Friday and deliver in Los Angeles,Ca on Monday.. Freight is real cheap at the moment and we really paid low ball money for this driver to deliver this freight. I kept calling the dispatcher yesterday to ask where the driver was as my customer said that the consignee had not seen a driver yet..
Our customer was so pissed and kept calling my son, telling him that they would never give us freight again.. After several calls, our customer called back and said the consignee said there was a truck in there yard but they did not see a driver.. My son called back the dispatcher and asked him what color his truck was.. It was their truck in the yard..After checking out the truck, our consignee found the driver hanging from the outside of the truck.. He had hung his self from the exhaust pipe.. He had to have been there for hours and no one had noticed..
So very devastating for everyone involved including my son... He fills as if he hadnt given them such cheap freight, the driver would not have done this.. They held all there employees there until 9:30 pm and had grief counselors.. sooooooo.. Please please please.. think through these things before you ever try something so horrible.. someone has to find you.. just had to share.. sorry
We had a driver pick up in Roanoke, TX on Friday and deliver in Los Angeles,Ca on Monday.. Freight is real cheap at the moment and we really paid low ball money for this driver to deliver this freight. I kept calling the dispatcher yesterday to ask where the driver was as my customer said that the consignee had not seen a driver yet..
Our customer was so pissed and kept calling my son, telling him that they would never give us freight again.. After several calls, our customer called back and said the consignee said there was a truck in there yard but they did not see a driver.. My son called back the dispatcher and asked him what color his truck was.. It was their truck in the yard..After checking out the truck, our consignee found the driver hanging from the outside of the truck.. He had hung his self from the exhaust pipe.. He had to have been there for hours and no one had noticed..
So very devastating for everyone involved including my son... He fills as if he hadnt given them such cheap freight, the driver would not have done this.. They held all there employees there until 9:30 pm and had grief counselors.. sooooooo.. Please please please.. think through these things before you ever try something so horrible.. someone has to find you.. just had to share.. sorry
Remind your son that it's not his fault, clearly the driver was in a deep dark place and must have been there for quite a while. What he did had nothing to do with this particular load.
How terrible for the driver's family to have to get this news.
thinking of all involved...
My son was the one who had to call them yesterday to tell them about their driver.. Raul said "Your joking right?"... So very sad..
I know that my Aunt has not been right since she found my Mom dead from suicide on Christmas Day. My Brother blames himself because he had an argument with our Mom the night before. I blame myself for not being more of a presence in her life. The whole family was devastated, and there were 8 other suicides the year after hers in my family.
So yes, anyone considering doing something like that, please stop and consider the pain and devastation you will leave behind.
My sister in law (use to be married to my brother) had her oldest son hang himself in his grandmothers garage.. absolutely horrible..
OMG.. Raul just called.. I answered the phone.. I told him how sorry I was.. I began to cry.. How sad..
It has been 10 years since my Mom's suicide, but it still hurts. Christmas is a sad day for me, when it should be a happy, joyful day.
I wish there was a way to talk people out of it so that no one has to know the pain that comes with being left behind when someone they love chooses to leave this world.
docu-film "Boy Interrupted" included a segment where a therapist makes the point that people aren't in this "Ophelia-like" state (I'm paraphrasing here) before they complete suicide. Often they appear very rational and at-peace; they are even often functioning well enough to write a well-structured letter. This is in contrast to what the stereotype that is propagated is. People
who kill themselves have something that breaks in their brain that overrides
the will to live. Usually that is some kind of mental disorder in adults.
They are what we call involuntarily deprived of their reason. They have no
idea what anyone else is thinking or feeling at that point. They are lost
in a world of pain.
You did nothing wrong. You didn't miss anything. It was just a plain
tragedy, a senseless act. Nobody's fault, really, which is what makes it so
horrible.
thanks for sharing the story.
Peace please, Robb