Ahhh, Dancing. I'm so sorry this happened. It's perfectly normal to be feeling like things are too much right now.

This boy chose to be cruel, and I wish I could explain it but I can't. I don't understand why some people choose to be mean when it's just as easy to be kind, but please know this is HIS problem and doesn't reflect on you at all. You are the same good and wonderful person you've always been even though you're hurting right now.

I'm so proud of you for reaching out and for being brave enough to take a chance on this date. I can tell you're doing your best to really live your life and that takes courage.

Know that it's ok to be upset and to cry right now. We're all here to support you, but if that's not enough you can always text 'HELLO' to 741741 to chat with a crisis counselor.

Take a deep breath and hang in there. We're with you.

Plain and simple, the guy is a piece of shit. Don't waste a single tear on him. That's what he wants. You are better then that and don't let some jackass make you feel any less. Karma Will get garbage like that sooner or later

i'm sorry this has happened to you.... he is very immature and cruel.

you are worthy of dating someone who truly values you... you are worthy!

I’m dealing with some self doubt insecurity at the moment and it hurt my heart to read your post. I’ve been there and know all too well the how bad it can sting when you feel like someone has rejected you. And for this guy to do this to you in such an unnecessarily cruel way really speaks to his character and what type of a person he is. It will hurt but it will continue to hurt less and less with each passing day. I know in the moment it feels like you can’t take anymore but just ride it out because at some point you will begin to feel better and worry about it less. Be easy on yourself for the next few days. Treat yourself the way you would treat a close loved one, who has come to you with the same issue you are experiencing right now. Give yourself some compassion and time to heal and reset. And when you do, you’re going to see more clearly and realize that this guy is a complete waste. He showed you who he is before you even had to waste any time dating or talking to him so try to be grateful for that if you can. You avoided getting involved with a shitty person and that’s always a plus. Feel better, you’re important and loved don’t forget that!

Do'nt think about him. Go to parties flirt with guys. There are a lot of nice guys waiting for you.

That guy is a complete waste of skin, and doesn’t even deserve to know you.

If you got an email from a guy who is strange and cruel, probably better off nothing happened. Won't surprise me if he then apologizes but write him off.

I am very sorry and sad this happened to you. I agree with everyone else this guy was a pig, cruel and u kind. There's a song on Christian radio that says, "this is for all the girls around the world, your worth more than gold" If your Christian or even if your not Christian contemporary music might comfort you too. Hugs

wow. glad he did not show up. could be dangerous.

This is hard to see now but that boy is so not worth your tears. he may have looked good on the outside but he is vile on the inside and it is good that you found this out early. his bad behavior has nothing to do with you and your worth as a person. I know this is painful but take it as a learning experience. there are some really shitty people out there and you just have to ignore them and focus on your good self and your good heart. really, he's not worth your time and tears, hon. also, I would stay away from him. don't text him back or contact him again. he sounds like a disturbed person. hugs!

Do note, sometimes you don't know the whole story. A guy planned a great date, taking this girl to an expensive restaurant. She seemed uninterested and was checking her cellphone and said she had to leave early. He later learned that she had a family member in the hospital and that was occupying her concerns.

It may be this guy was dysfunctional and angry- normal people do not act that way, and there could be another explanation.

Dancinggirl...What a jerk! No one deserves that. Be thankful you found out now that he's a jerk than a few years from now. Just know that this has nothing to do with you and everything to do with him. Hang in there. Hugs!

I’m so sorry to hear this. It’s OK to cry. Cry if you need to help you get through this disappointment.

Please keep us posted. We are here for you.
I pray that you will get through this and things will work out fine for you. , God bless.

Hi, thank you all so much for your help and kind words too. Your all nice and helpful.

Hi Dancinggirl,
A guy that does something as low as that is an a-hole and is not deserving of your company. Don't let one jerk bring you down! I'm sorry this happened to you. You deserve better. If you met him on a dating app, find another. Too many guys out there like to play games. I know if hurts because even though I'm a guy, I know what it feels like. I hope you know this had nothing to do with you. Forget about it and move on. I pray that you don't let this get you down! Hugs!!