It is hard to tell people no, or resist trying to fix their problems. But, it is more important that you fix your own problems at the time. Slow down and take care of you, which means letting others handle their own problems.

The best thing you can do is be there for them even if you fuck up. Everyone makes mistakes and they have to learn to deal with that. There is no piece of paper that says we have to be perfect and get everything right.......we just have to try our best and do what we can, and if shit happens then shit happens. We just have to be the best friends we can to others no matter what happens.

It is hard when people put unrealistic expectations on you. You are Human. You *will* make mistakes. End of story. Those around you should rejoice in your successes and support you through your mistakes.

That said, try to see this in a slightly different light. All this expectation placed on your shoulders, unfair though it may be, is really a very deep compliment. You obviously have earned their sincere respect and admiration, otherwise a slip-up wouldn't be so traumatic in their eyes.

Best of luck in learning to walk that line of doing the best you can while accepting, and forgiving yourself, when mistakes occur. I can't tell you how long it's taken me to understand this simple truth.

ive been what every1 wants me to be that ive lost who and what i am.i dunno how or if i could find her again.