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I'm getting really sick of having to care for everyone around me, while I get nothing in return. I'm cleaning, doing laundry, working my ass off to try to support us, but I rarely ever get so much as a thanks.
And when I want to do something, if he doesn't want to do it too (like we're going to the movies, but disagree on which film) then I always end up giving in. I did it again tonight- I wanted one thing for dinner, he wanted something else- guess who won? And I was sooooo mad at myself for giving in again. I know I just do it to myself, but still....
Is it too much to ask to want to feel cared for sometimes? Not pampered, just like my opinions, wants and needs are worth something. I feel like the token girl here- like the house mom. All I need is some lunches in paper bags, an apron, and the June Cleaver pearls, and I'll be set.
Thanks for letting me rant.
And when I want to do something, if he doesn't want to do it too (like we're going to the movies, but disagree on which film) then I always end up giving in. I did it again tonight- I wanted one thing for dinner, he wanted something else- guess who won? And I was sooooo mad at myself for giving in again. I know I just do it to myself, but still....
Is it too much to ask to want to feel cared for sometimes? Not pampered, just like my opinions, wants and needs are worth something. I feel like the token girl here- like the house mom. All I need is some lunches in paper bags, an apron, and the June Cleaver pearls, and I'll be set.
Thanks for letting me rant.
my guy and i go through the same stuff, he's always going out and playing pick-up hockey games with his friends... then the weekend comes and he's all of a sudden really really really tired and in a bummed-out mood and doesn't want to have anything to do with anybody. i ended up going to HIS friend's bonfire just to have someone to hang out with!
as for june cleaver.... ugh, i wish i had the ability to take care of stuff. can't even scrape up the energy to take care of myself.
He said "I thought I was talking care of you." not when you sit on your ass downloading movies and tell me "we" should wash clothes cause you're out of work shirts. You mean I should wash them for you!
So he agreed to help more.
Then, not 10 min later, the dryers buzzer goes off. I got up to switch the clothes out. Guess what he's doing? Yep nothing!
I guess help more actually means - I'm just placating you so you'll stop crying, I have no intention of doing anything.
Thanks for the advice.
I may try the codependent group, as for a vacation, I wish. These days I can barely pay my rent. Good idea though.
Hugs