Depression Support Group

Depression is a real and debilitating condition that is often misunderstood by family and friends. Its meaning can range from a prolonged period of sadness to an actual mental illness with specific symptoms. Find and share experiences with others who are going through the same struggles.

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needlight 04/19/2010

Hi everybody... I am here because I am tired of trying to change. I already had depression, I have done therapy. It worked for me but then I stopped, sessions are too expensive. I started working and it seemed everything was ok. Until...I had to deal with critics in my job, people humiliate me in my job and I always stay quiet, I never answer and when I come home I start crying, I get depressive...yesterday I was bad, I was like I had no feelings and nothing really cared for me.It's not the first time I get angry with situations in my job, cause people do and say what they want and I don't do anything to protect mysef. I thought abou becoming a really serious person, it would be the only way to really be ready to these situations but my boyfriend disagree. He thinks I should only be serious in the right moment. I am so tired of carying too much abou people's opinion, because they can always hurt me. My boyfriend told me to go to the doctor or to the church I like (he doesn't like but he supports me if it will help me). But the point is:

- I am ashame of going to the doctor (it's the second time I go)
-Sometimes I believe nothing will work to me, not even church...
thanks for reading me guys. I am open to anything that can help me.

deleted_user 04/19/2010

There's no shame in going to the doctor if you need to go. You should try standing up for yourself at work. When a person says something or does something that humiliates you tell them you don't appreciate their stupid comment or action. If you can just do your work and ignore them. They only do it for the reaction. If there is no reaction then they tend to stop. What do they do or say exactly? I know the feeling of thinking nothing will work, you can only try. At least you got a supportive boyfriend, try to just rest in his arms and let your worries go away.

deleted_user 04/19/2010

I also had problems at work and did not speak up for myself,eventually it all got too much and I ended up very anxious and depressed I visited my doctor numerous times until he accepted something needed to be done,he put me forward for therapy I talked at great length about my insecurity and not being able to challenge other people and I had a course of CBT(cognitive behavioural therapy) this helped enormously and am now able to speak aloud to others and challenge people without thinking I cannot do it and feeling a failure. It does not matter how many times you visit your doctor ahve the courage to go back and ask if this therapy is available,it helped me and I am sure it will help you. Thinking of you and GOOD LUCK!!

mamie1890 04/19/2010

Hi:
It is so hard to deal with workplace issues. I believe there are bullies everywhere. I had a day at work where I was overwhelmed and constantly feel like people throw their work onto me. One woman actually brought a cell phone over to me and put it to my ear (to deal with a family) while I was having a conversation with another person. She could have answered the question herself rather than walk all the way to give it to me. I also feel the environment is totally invalidating. Going to the doctor might help. I have done this and counseling. I honestly believe that, for me, this is the wrong job. Though you take your issues with you I have worked long enough to know that some environments are just toxic. I think you have to consider whether your making changes in how you deal with people will change and make you happy or whether the environment is likely to remain the same. In the meantime, I am sorry that you feel so bad. I feel very bad today myself. I am glad that you wrote. Hugs

deleted_user 04/20/2010

Work on trying to accept yourself as a person and ask your boyfriend to support you and tell you your good qualities. The more you are accepting of yourself and accepted and respected by those closest to you the less you will be reliant on obtaining the approval of others at work and therefore less affected by their critisism.

If you need somebody to talk to PM me and we can talk if you wish.

needlight 04/20/2010

thanks everyone. It's difficult to admit I need help but I don't want this situation become a bigger problem in my life. I wanna try to solve it. I told my doctor about how I was feeling and now I am going to wait a month until the therapist can see me but that's ok. I will wait and I will do my best.

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