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whatswrong19
whatswrong19
Went to the gym yesterday. there is this older woman, who does not speak good English, she has dark hair, and I'm assuming she is Hispanic since she speaks Spanish more than English. she does not like me much because she was sitting on the leg press for like 45 minutes one day and wasn't using it, but was playing on her phone, and I got annoyed and said something to another member where she could hear, and gave her a dirty look. I didn't say anything directly to her because I was too mad, and I knew I would be ugly if I did. Then I told myself I was going to be nice the next time I went and I tried to be nice to her. Well yesterday she told one of the ladies working at the gym that "maybe she no like men" I heard her say it, but was not sure she was referring to me, I walked by them to get a paper towel and the girl she was talking to said how are you and I said fine, how are you and the Hispanic lady points her finger at the girl smiling and says "AYYYYY!" I'm not that upset by it, but just thought I would share an unpleasant moment and get other people's perspective.
Misssy2
Misssy2
I would have just walked up to her the day she was on the phone and said excuse me I would like to use this machine....I see you are not using it...or asked an attendant to ask her to move!
whatswrong19
whatswrong19
Yes, and that would have been the best way to handle it Missy2, thanks for the input
Misssy2
Misssy2
yea, because now you have a resentment against this woman...and the gym is to DE-STRESS. Just stay away from her for a while..and since she is feeling the resentment....the next time she is legitatmley on a machine you want...ask an attendant to ask her to move...instead of boiling inside and wanting to smack her!

And remember for future similar experiences.

Say what you mean and don't say it meanly :)
Community LeaderThePepperMan
ThePepperMan
I do agree with you about people who just sit on equipment without using it. I get the same thing at the gym I go to, but not as bad.
koolman
koolman
And people who leave the free weights everywhere or "mark their territory" by placing a weight on a bench that I need to lay down on, when there are only a few benches in the place, are quite annoying. I'm like "Hey, you snooze, you lose", I remove the weight from the bench, place the weights laying on the floor back on their respective places in the weight rack, and rock on. I've never been confronted by anyone "Hey, I was using that!" and I'm SOOO looking forward to such a confrontation.
whatswrong19
whatswrong19
Hurray! I'm not the only one who gets annoyed with people in the Gym. Thanks for the comments, makes me feel normal.
survivor69
survivor69
I'M 2 OLD 4 GYMS.........................
HEE HEE HEE
PLUS I HAD BRAIN SURGERY IN 2009.
MY BALANCE IS NOT GOOD.
GBU
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;-O
solitudeisnear
solitudeisnear
Yeah probably not the best way to go about it but its ok to share. Its normal that these little things happen to us everyday and some of us like me go without being able to share it. Just that way for me I guess. It was just as rude of her and her friend to act that way instead of saying or asking what they really wanted to. I get to nervous with the gyms, and the people. too self conscious. You'll have to try and pick time she is not there, if at all possible.
oldcper
oldcper
Sorry your gym is like that, but, and this is an important but...if you don't want people talking about you....you shouldn't be talking about other people. You admit speaking about her to someone where she could "hear" you....yet you have a problem with her doing the same thing.

Wouldn't the proper thing to have gone to the Manager of the Gym and simply tell them you wanted to use the leg press but someone was sitting on it playing on their phone. Then they would have handled it as it should have been handled in the beginning.
TroJanThunder
TroJanThunder
Well first of al I think it incredibly rude and insensitive for that person to sit and hog the machine like that. I mean if she wants to chat on her phone at the Gym ok. But could she not just do it in a quiet corner?

But yeah. Prolly best to let an employee handle it if you don't feel comfortable doing it yourself.
Community LeaderThePepperMan
ThePepperMan
Good luck finding a gym employee who will do something about problems. At my gym the employees seem to avoid stuff lie that like the plague. They also seem to dislike doing maintenance, but that is another gripe.
TroJanThunder
TroJanThunder
Yeah. You are probably right Pep. I was never able to get the "worker bees" to do anything when I used to work at the rec center either. Kind of that way at the assisted living and nursing homes to to a certain extent. I have noticed where my Mom is living the policy seems to be one strike and you are out,
BooClouds
BooClouds
This is why I attend the classes at the gym instead. I usually get the same spot every time in each class I attend because we are all regulars. It's a bummer for those of us who use the gym to work out and feel better -- when we have to deal with inconsiderate people. Seems the bigger the world gets...the more of them come out of the woodwork.
cottontail
cottontail
she sounds totally self centred, you did the right thing keeping calm and polite. just ignore them I too would have been annoyed if this happened to me.
whatswrong19
whatswrong19
wow, a lot of comments. Thanks, seems she must have embarrassed herself without my help cause she hasn't been back. I had tried to be nice the next day cause I know she may feel isolated, not speaking much English, but guess in her mind that means I'm gay. Who knows, who cares. Yes, sometimes if we wait it seems problems fix themselves. Not always. Also the problem with approaching her was that she did not speak enough English so I wasn't sure she would understand me, and at the time I wasn't sure I would be nice.