Depression Support Group

Depression is a real and debilitating condition that is often misunderstood by family and friends. Its meaning can range from a prolonged period of sadness to an actual mental illness with specific symptoms. Find and share experiences with others who are going through the same struggles.

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Alphonsus 02/16/2010

We don't have the words to remove the hurt from someone's life. I always look for the words though, hoping they will come to me. Sometimes I'm convinced that the words do exist somewhere, but I just don't know how to find them.

Know that, if you are in pain, that I, and probably most the people on this board, would love to say the magic words that would make the pain go away. We don't know the words, so we do the best we can.

The thought of others in pain causes me pain. I want to heal all of you.

I will just send out virtual hugs instead, because it's all I can do right now.

So, hugs to all of you.

Alphonsus

deleted_user 02/16/2010

It seems as though we are always searching for the right words. Whether it be to take away the pain, describe the pain or understand the pain. You are right there are no words that compare. Thank you for the hug. I send one back to you. lunapoet

ElenaNJ 02/16/2010

thanks A man. u rock babe!

deleted_user 02/16/2010

Nice post. I too wish I had the words to make my own pain and others' go away. Doesn't work that way, it's often a combination of alot of words and gentle actions and gestures including those of touch and hugging.

deleted_user 02/16/2010

I know you do, Alph, that's one of the best things about you. You're genuinely caring and compassionate. I think we're all really grateful for that.

It IS hard when someone we care about is in pain, and we can't do much to help...except stay in touch, and hope for the best!!!

Sometimes, that's a lot!

bebu 02/16/2010

I think the best words (at least in my experience) are "what can I do to help" - if we are talking about one on one. On-line it is so much more difficult, but virtual hugs etc. do help - they make us realise that we are not alone - and that is HUGE!!!!

deleted_user 02/17/2010

There have been days when I have signed in to DS and found a hug waiting for me, and that hug would end up being the kindest thing that had happened to me all day.

Never underestimate what a couple of kind words can do for someone. In my experience, Alph, your words are often healing and your hugs are very appreciated.

deleted_user 02/17/2010

great post. for me, it is not words over time that matter 'irl' so being here it is a bit trickier b/c all we have to offer are words.

so, booboo makes a good point, as well, that just seeing a hug/msg from a sincere friend can make a big difference in the day.

I think when you can feel that ppl truly care about you, it is enough to help someone, as they at least don't feel so alone. xxx

crzychik 02/17/2010

hugs to you too!!! i've missed seeing ya on here!

deleted_user 02/17/2010

Thankyou

deleted_user 02/17/2010

alph

i have friends who send me kind words often. then i have friends who send me kind words just at the time i need them...

you are certainly in one of these categories...

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