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The Pain inside

spazoid
spazoid
For the past month shortly after my aunt had died... Everything seemed to pile on such as:

- Losing a girlfriend
- being unemployed
- no license or a car (relying on people sucks)
- hardly any friends to hang out with... Because, of the license bit... It's hard to spend time with people other than family anymore...

So, on the upside to things I now have a girlfriend and a job; which, is nice; because, I can be happier in a sense... Just wish there was a way to be happier and have all this pain to go away... I can't stop thinking about my aunt and my other family members who have died while growing up...
deleted_user
deleted_user
the grieving process is slow.I still well up thiking of my nanna 11 years ago but I smile and laugh too now,took a long time x
deleted_user
deleted_user
Loosing loved ones is always hard. My father been gone for close to 21 years. I miss him. I cry for him, still. I talk to my mother about this. She understands. Her mother has been gone for over 40 years. She says she still misses her. Missing a loved one is natural and okay. Work your way through it. Time does heal wounds. After awhile, you will be able to smile when thinking of your beloved auntie. Mayber try to focus on the good that in front of you. Girlfriend & new job. New job has the potential of new friends!
You will never get over, or forget. But, you will be able to smile when thoughts cross your mind. She would want you to be happy? Right?
Take it easy.
gramybear
gramybear
It's going to take time. I am still struggling over my ex from last March but I know, in time, it will get better. I try to think of all the fun times and the 2 boys we brought into the world, which in turn brought in 7 wonderful grand kids. So when it gets really hard on you, think back to all of the good times and maybe you will even find yourself laughing a little out loud over all those fun times.
deleted_user
deleted_user
(((((((((((hugs)))))))))) for you...i understand the pain...i've lost many loved ones over the years. xo
Juice
Juice
Time really IS a healer, but you need to be kind to yourself in the mean time. Losing people we love is the price we pay for loving them and being loved in return, and in the future the sadness will be replaced to a great extent by happy memories and warm feelings.
deleted_user
deleted_user
First of all, hugs and kind thoughts for you today. I agree with the other replies. Grief is a very different thing for everybody. Some people seem to get through it so much easier or faster than others. I lost a very special family member a few years ago. I can now think of him and smile but at the same time I do still cry and my heart still aches for him.
Over time it will get better. Don't push yourself to be better than you truly are. Eventually you will think of the times you spent with those you lost.