im not so good on this topic but I'm here to listen if you need someone to talk to. Personally i think you should leave if you aren't helping each other. It seems to me, and of course I'm no professional on this, but it seems to me that neither of you are good for each other when it comes to mental health, and everyone deserves to be in a relationship where they are being helped and helping the other

I agree 100%

You should not help, or ever talk to again, someone who calls you a pathetic coward who should die. Doesn't matter what she says when she needs something from you. Because I'm betting the only time she says something nice to you is when she wants something like help, attention or affection or something else. You should definitely leave anyway. You should leave now. It's not ok to say that to anyone under any circumstances. Please stand up for yourself. If you aren't used to it, it can be hard at first. But it's worth it. Your self-esteem will rise and you may attract a much better partner in the future if that is what you are looking for.

We are separated but I want to leave thus state and move across the country and start my cafe. When I do that. I'm changing my number, email. Facebook, all of it.

I'll take a large iced coffee, light ice, extra cream. :) Seriously, though, I love to see people achieve their dreams, especially those who struggle like us. Go for it!

Sweetened or unsweetened?

Hey Lobo.............I don't know you. I don't need to know you to care about you. You can message me anytime you want to talk. I will do my best. I might not answer right away, because i might be in the middle of something, but I will. Don't give up. I 'm at that point too.................But I know my family doesn't want me to give up. I know I'm not family but I would like to be your friend.

If you don't have a Court Decree telling the 2 of you what type of Support is ordered it sounds like it would be a better if you 2 had a clean split. Hanging around to help "when you can" leaves things really open and unfinished....just doesn't sound like a great plan.

Thank you all for your support. I really need it right now,

Unsweetened! lol. Seriously, though, you're going to make a great barista, if I spelled that right.

if you haven't got any kids there are no ties to worry about. Live your life. You only get one.

And maybe the other side of the country will be far enough away to leave that woman's point of view behind. Having said that it sounds like she loves you, and you're hurting her.

Anyway be that as it may, we're born alone and we'll die alone. If we have someone keeping us company during some of the time inbetween that's to be seen as a gift. Our fundamental state is alone and when we make peace with that, a whole lot of other guff disappears. Everything else suddenly seems like a cherry on top.

Good luck with the cafe.

Thank you guys, I've posted before I am actually a Starbucks Coffee master. And I want to make fresh juices and smoothies alongside healthier food options alongside favorites. I love what I do and I'm very grateful that I've become a master of my craft. It's my life and I want to do it forever.

I've been married for 16 years have been cheated on constantly lied to he is never home because he owns a bar which I didn't want him to but did anyway we have 2 kids I'm so lonely I'm trying to find a job so I can get a divorce he says he loves me but actions speak louder than words when he is home he's on his phone and I'm ignored all I do is cry I've had my medication changed I just need someone to give me the support and strength to get through this for my kids sometime I just wish I would fall asleep and never wake up I know that sounds selfish and I'm not suicidal I just need someone who understands and can show some empathy when I talk about it to other people I feel like I'm looking for pity and that is the last thing I want I want to laugh again and eventually find someone who gives me the love back that I give

Wow, I can't imagine how that must be.