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dyinginside35
dyinginside35

Im 35 years old and I'm lost. Im lost because i dont know what i want and its freaking me out and it depresses me. I feel like a failure because i want to be like most 35 year olds,marriage, kids, a career  etc. I know i want nice things. I feel like ive given up on myself. Am i destined for a horrible life,  and be alone . Can previous trauma8 be making me feel this way.

LeftWing
LeftWing
That's not uncommon for you to feel that way.
The same thing happened to my friend. He wanted to die. He was so down about it.
I told him same thing I'll tell you. You need (some how, some way, it WILL be HARD to get) to find either or both a career or someone to love. Even if you find 1 and not the other you will be happier.
After my friend got married, he's much happier.
I hope you can find both. I think when you do find that, then you'll have a much more outward view of things. & having that view will make you happier. But you don't get that without having the career, spouse & kids......so that makes your problem hard to solve, but it can be solved!
OlderCPer
OlderCPer
Trauma can make you not go for the goals that you may have had when you were younger...but the thing is, you need to deal with that Trauma and put it behind you. These days 35 is not old, people start marriages and families well after that. But you are the only one who can get your life in order and make the things that you want to happen, happen. If you can't get out of the depression, go see a Therapist and get some help getting things together.
Heidiclark
Heidiclark
Yes trauma can definitely affect how your life it going. Do you have a therapist you can work with who is a good match for you? Are you taking medication for the depression? I would say to start there,
sharaninmd
sharaninmd
As others mentioned earlier, get help to cope with the trauma. See a psychiatrist who will determine if you need medication and they can recommend a therapist.
SuZQ
SuZQ
So sorry you are feeling sad. Yes, past trauma can certainly be effecting you today. What past traumas do you believe might be effecting you? Our hearts sometimes are crying out and we need to just acknowledge those feelings in words to work through them. Praying that you can identify those feelings and be able to tell us about them.
LifesAsickGame
LifesAsickGame
Try to learn acceptance and just take one day at a time.
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