she's messin with danger. Call a doctor and get her to him immedidately or take her to the ER room if yu have to carry her, fightin and screamin....she needs some big time acute intervention hun, please dont wait. Someday she may thank you for it and someday she may not....either way you got her the help she needed when she couldn't wouldn't do it herself. xx Good luck huni, we are here!

i am like SuyB, take charge but gently, and talk/call a doctor/pastor. dont be scared, be strong, she and your son needs you and you need her well. it may take a while, this might be situational depression, but either way when we get to this spot we can not control it. she doesnt like feeling this way no more than you want her to feel this way. seek counsil, sometimes a pastor, but there is great help. stay in touch. we are here for you..

I agree with the others, I do think that she needs some help. Perhaps you could book the appt for her and take her so that you know that she has had someone professional look at her.
She needs your support to get better. She is messing with you and your son, and she may not realise this. It may be that some medication or some therapy would be a great help.
Above all, make sure that she knows that you love her and that you want to support her.

xx

she definately needs some professional help. You're going to have to be very addament that she see someone. And of course be there to support her......

As you know, you can't force her to seek help. Just be kind (no cruel words please) & take care of yourself and your son. Maybe write her a letter explaining that you think she is very ill & needs to seek treatment.

yes, i believe that your instincts are correct. i isolate myself in the bedroom like that too. my husband just leaves me, enables me i guess. she does need counseling and perhaps medicine.

she sounds depressed, tired, sleeping to escape, unsatisfied with life, emotionally disconnected to family. what's her attitude about counseling? she sounds like a smart woman (promoted at work).

maybe bring her some books about depression and pamplets about local places that can help her. especially if insurance pays for it, tell her you'd like to make good use of your insurance that you guys pay a lot for.

use your kid, there's nothing like mother guilt. you see, when she locks herself up in room, then you care forthe house andson, just like my husband. if he's not there, then i['m forced toget up and shower and be responsible.

cruel words don't help, it only will seal her dissappiiontment, like noone understands. maybe she's unhappy in the marriage as well, marriage is work and when you're feeling like that you don't want to put the effort in. you can pm me if you want. keep posting here, and maybe your wife will even come on eventually. she's lucky that you're intelligent enough to seek help, my husband would remain clueless.

Sound like she needs therapy. I would suggest it do her unless you think she is in danger of commenting suicide. Otherwise, you can just encourage her to go.

I hope your wife gets the help she needs for you and your son also. I will say a prayer for her. ((((HUGS))))

Bandaids are not permanent, professional stiches are needed. Marriage councillor and a personal councilor for her. Make ultimatums or nothing will ever change

I too agree. Don't wait get her to the ER. It could be depression but it could be something else. Better safe than sorry. Call a mental health hotline if needbe they can come to your home.

I'm with the girls on this one.....

I want to thank everyone sooo much. It looks like she is committed to getting a divorce as she is not happy and I'm afraid I don't have much leverage here. I'm trying to be as supportive as I can but she seems to be in a different place that I can't reach. I'll keep up the "goodfight" as they mean the world to me. Again thank all of you!!

I think a leaflet or getting her to look at a web page about depression....show her how similar her symptons are. Make her face this. " look...you do this and this" etc
Hopefully being confronted with the facts might help her to open her eyes...
I must say that you must be an extreemly caring person to go the extra mile and find advice here for her!!
'applauds'