Depression Support Group

Depression is a real and debilitating condition that is often misunderstood by family and friends. Its meaning can range from a prolonged period of sadness to an actual mental illness with specific symptoms. Find and share experiences with others who are going through the same struggles.

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angelite 12/02/2007

For the first time in my life I feel true contempt and hate for someone. It is a horrible feeling.

How do you stop hating someone who intentionally has tried to cause harm to you?

deleted_user 12/02/2007

That feeling will pass in time.

deleted_user 12/02/2007

truly can't answer that one for u, angelite; i am a good friend until someone does me REALLY wrong, so i don't know how to not feel contempt for them

deleted_user 12/02/2007

dont....

deleted_user 12/02/2007

i mean, i don't know how NOT to feel contempt for them (sorry, it's late here) :)

angelite 12/02/2007

I just wish I could forget all about them, but they continue to try and upset me or make me angry as much as possible. I no longer feel safe around this person or anyone who seems to associate with them.

deleted_user 12/02/2007

sounds like my ex....lol

deleted_user 12/02/2007

i think shelley19 is right, your feelings of hatred will pass in time. i think its okay to have feelings of hate, so long as you don't let them consume you (or violently influence your actions!).

i guess you could try thinking about something that you like about this person that's unrelated to your conflict with him/her....and try to focus on that?

angelite 12/02/2007

not sure anymore if I know anything about this person.... I think everything up until this conflict was an act.

deleted_user 12/02/2007

dont think i can stop hating some people but the feeling of hate has got easyer with some and passed in time. suppose it depends whatthey have done

deleted_user 12/02/2007

what kind of harm? broken heart? physical? etc... it depends on what type to determine wheather you will stop hating or not.

deleted_user 12/02/2007

Honestly the hatred will go.Avoid them and don't assume everyone who talks to them is against you x

deleted_user 12/02/2007

Hate is a strong emotion or feeling to deal with. It is even more difficult to get over. Obviously this person set out to hurt you which is bothersome on its own. Give it time. Your heart and mind will mend.

deleted_user 12/02/2007

just try to find it in yourself to forgive them. it is very possible.

might take lots of effort though.
x

deleted_user 12/02/2007

It's ok to hate someone, if possbile stay away. And never act on the hate.
Distence from them will help.
If posilbe you can forgive, but never forget. Watch you back let others know that can help in the futre.

deleted_user 12/02/2007

I do have thoughts on this, and hope they will help. If a person has intenionally tried to cause you harm, first ask yourself why they might do that. Once you discover the motives of the other person, you'll be in a position of understanding why they intended you harm. Perhaps that person is jealous of you for some reason, or they feel threatened by you for some reason. Hate will often dissolve when understanding is reached.

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