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I dont know if anyone saw Oprah yesterday but it was on abuse of wives. It affects the children as well as the mother and they said that anyone that is suffering from abuse needs to get out. You need to make a plan first and they told the steps to the plan. It was very interesting.
My step father was a very abusive man and it wasnt just to my mother but his 3 step children (I was one of them) and his own 2 sons with my mother. Seems the cops were at our house every weekend to take Earl to the coffee shop and sober him up. That was long before they came up with the domestic violence laws. The neighbors and the schools and the law officers all new and didnt do anything about it.
I wish my mother would have left because I think that is why my one brother and I became alcoholics. You would think watching what Earl did drunk would have kept it from us but nope we have both become alcoholics and I am fighting it bad now.. No full blame on him as he did not force my hand. The other kids all have other addictions and we get together and talk about our life and we all cry. Why my mother ever let it continue I will never know..
Anyone else have any stories to share?
My step father was a very abusive man and it wasnt just to my mother but his 3 step children (I was one of them) and his own 2 sons with my mother. Seems the cops were at our house every weekend to take Earl to the coffee shop and sober him up. That was long before they came up with the domestic violence laws. The neighbors and the schools and the law officers all new and didnt do anything about it.
I wish my mother would have left because I think that is why my one brother and I became alcoholics. You would think watching what Earl did drunk would have kept it from us but nope we have both become alcoholics and I am fighting it bad now.. No full blame on him as he did not force my hand. The other kids all have other addictions and we get together and talk about our life and we all cry. Why my mother ever let it continue I will never know..
Anyone else have any stories to share?
Hugs to you and your family
Less than a week after she left, he followed her home from work one night, put a bullet in her temple, and then one in his. I was on the scene right behind the police, and I was sitting in the hospital waiting room when they brought the bullets out after the autopsies. I will never, ever, forget any of that.
I don't tell you this to frighten you, but to point out that leaving is not as cut and dried and "simple" as it sounds. We don't really know the details of anyone's life except our own, or what they have been threatened with, or are capable of.
I have been an abuse victim myself, for three years, and I definitely recommend the concept of making a plan. I was planning months ahead, squireling away money and biding my time, until one morning when he had kept me up all night ranting and raving (sleep deprivation is a component of abuse in many cases), and I put the plan in motion. He left, and I threw as many things in a suitcase as I could manage, and got out.
In my case, he stalked me for months, and I was on heavy-duty antidepressants just to function, because I was so scared that my hands would shake just thinking about going outside where I was vulnerable.
I was lucky - with help I got out and with more help I finally managed to get him to stop stalking me. But...to this day I look over my shoulder from time to time.