It is painful to 'hurt someone' .. I think I understand your feelings.

Sometimes we, in order to prevent bigger problems later, must 'create' a smaller problem .. its unavoidable.

If you are convinced the direction of your relationship was not 'right', you are commendable in your making necessary 'adjustments'.

you sound like a nice person and caring too. but, before this fella can be involved in a loving healthy relationship, he has to et a rip on his anxiety.

i believe that ther's midicine for that, and therapy. he sounds really dependent and perhaps his reasoning is a little off.

you're not a bitch, you have to go with how you feel. and you let him down gently. hopefully, he'll get some help for himself first and then maybe find someone who he can have a relationship with.

You sound like a very caring person...you said you broke up with him in the most delicate way you could. It's so hard to break up with a person who cares for you. But you did the right thing. Hopefully he will find a way to get treatment for his anxiety problems. You are doing well in going on with your life. You are a good person.

No one knows for sure the struggles that you have faced over the last 3 months. Anxiety is difficult to live with for the person and their loved ones.

Years ago I realized it is not going to bed with someone that proves you love them, it is getting up and facing everyday problems that proves it....

Obviously, your kind and caring was not enough to build a life on. Being kind in words and heart does not prevent the other person from their feelings. The ending of any relationship, be it 3 months or more is a difficult situation for both people.

As a kind caring person, you can call or contact him to check on him as a friend. Being there not to lead him on, just to be there to let him know that his life is worth living....

Thank you for sharing this time.
Jerry

I know how he feels sweetheart, but I also understand where you are coming from as well. Depressed people can at times be depressing to be around, and in fact if around them for too long, they can indeed infect you with their dis-ease unintentionally.

You have done the right thing for both of you, and most importantly for yourself, you are a smart switched on person, and I congratulate you for so being.

What can you do? Don't be too hard on yourself. Had someone tell me I made her so happy on the Tuesday and then said she couldn't do it anymore on the Saturday. Go figure. I probably pushed a little hard...wanted it to work so bad. Probably smoothered her. But I realise it's more my lack of self confidence than anything she did and I really have to get a bit better before a relationship will work. Life would be very hard if we had to stay with someone we didn't want to.

If there was no future, you did the kindest thing you possibly could with ending it now. Three months is a good amount of time to explore the relationship and you gave it time.

Part of me wonders if you called it off because you couldn't handle his anxiety. That is totally valid reason for breaking up and you should not feel any guilt. You cannot be a supportive piece of his life if his anxiety is a roadblock for you. It would just harm you rather than help him.

Whatever your reason, I think you did the right thing.