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Someone talk me through this

Friend19
Friend19
I'm past my 4th date with someone...How do you know if you like someone? What am I supposed to be feeling? I can't stop crying, everything is such a crap ass struggle in my life. I don't want to string anyone along, but if he goes away I'm back to only having the internet for company. I don't know what to do. Help me.

HUGS
deleted_user
deleted_user
i'm not saying this to be funny, but one thing my guy friends used to tell me is they hate the words "but i want to be friends." lol. so, maybe don't use that phrase. feel him out first, but maybe don't utter those words...
Friend19
Friend19
I think I get attached to people too easily because I never have anyone to talk to. I will miss him in some strange way. I always do this!!!

When I'm away from him, I think I like him. When I'm with him I feel awkward and I don't want him to touch or kiss me. WTF is wrong with me?
Community LeaderThePepperMan
ThePepperMan
I tried to restate my thoughts, but others have done a better job of it.

I'll just add this: sort out how YOU feel, and then be honest with him about it. He is a big boy, and if you want to break it off, just do it!
Friend19
Friend19
ok
deleted_user
deleted_user
It sounds as if you really enjoy the companionship, but simply do not feel as though you want to be in an exclusive or physical relationship with him. It is so normal to feel that way. Please don't beat yourself up over this. Be honest and do not compromise your values or intentions. I know that there may be aspects to this relationship that you don't want to lose, but again, it will be up to both of you if a friendship is to continue. I would add that if he is aggressively "physical" towards you, that he may not in the least, respect you or your intentions.