There's no guarantee about how this will all end up going. But that's just life. None of us knows how life will turn out in the end. Is your husband taking medication for the depression? If not you might want to look in to it.

What is your husband doing or not doing that is causing a problem? Can you talk to him about your marriage and your concerns about it? If your husband's depression is in fact severe then it may be hard for him do do any better than he already is. Although the fact that he can work tells me that his functioning level is good. I have had severe depression for 25 years so I have some idea of what your husband is dealing with, although I don't work.

Thank you for ur replies- I honestly love knowing I'm not by myself. My husband has had different medicines before but they do make everything else seem numb to him. He's tried different ones and different doses but although he struggles a lot, when the good moments come- they are REALLY good and that's what he misses. Especially with two little girls. It's hard to explain what he is and isn't doing because it sounds really shallow and quite selfish but living it feels harder I guess then what it sounds. He can be quite cruel with the things he says when he is down because he knows what hurts me. And the worst part is being so emotionless. I know when depression is at his peak, things aren't the same but I cannot understand how anybody lacks ANY compassion for someone that they say they love. A simple hug if I've had a bad day or some sweet words would go so so so far. He knows my language of love is his words and I think he purposely holds back on things on purpose to almost test and push me. To instil that he does have all the power in our relationship....
Just hard when that's a true need on my behalf and yet I don't and can't get it from anyone else...